one of my friends i like.....but really should try an get over him. wants to sleep wit me!!! if i did, would that ruin our friendship, cause i really dont want to lose him as a friend.
thanks..
2007-07-16 14:18:58 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have gone out, an he always wants to catch up....but has told me he can open himself up to a relationship...pretty much we can do everything as bf and gf but at the end of the day he is still single.
2007-07-17 15:22:16 · update #1
sorry cant open himself up to a relationship!!!
2007-07-17 15:22:53 · update #2
Don't sleep around like a common whore.
2007-07-16 14:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Already he is not a friend. He is a guy who is trying to sleep with you. If you have 5 male friends, at least 4 of them would sleep with you if they thought they could.
Otherwise, they stay in a holding pattern waiting for their chance. Sorry.
At least 3 of them will deny it and the other 1 or 2 might admit it thinking it is their big chance.
It doesn't mean they are evil or hateful, but don't be a rube about why guys hang around with girls.
2007-07-16 14:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by the_defiant_kulak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to sleep with him, or anybody?
Just to hug him and be hugged, or to have sex?
You can have sex with anybody you want. But there is no guarantee that it will do anything good for you. It will most probably be totally meaningless and leave you feeling empty, wondering why you did it.
If you feel a true affection for him, and you know he does for you, then, maybe, it could make sense to share it with him, and even share sex, lovingly and caringly.
Be sure you feel sure he will not disappear tomorrow. After all, he´s done it, why stay?.
It is the only way you will feel it was not a waste of time.
Fantasy about wonderful sex is fabulous, but it is seldom reflected in reality. Unless there is affection and care involved.
Look after your most precious posession: your body and your soul.
They always go together.
Good luck.
2007-07-16 14:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by tango bailado 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you want to get over him..that means that you're into him...are you in love with him? why does he want to sleep with you? How do you know that he wants to sleep with you? Is he in love with you too?
Aside from answering those questions yourself, which only you can really do, speaking from personal experience, I wouldn't do that again. I slept with my best friend once, which led to a relationship which ultimately didn't work out because the feelings were never mutual. There's probably a reason that the two of you are friends. If there was a mutual attraction from the beginning you probably wouldn't be friends, you'd be dating.
2007-07-16 14:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may turn out to be the best relationship that you may have. Cause you will be both lovers and friends. The friendship won't be ruined if you two really like each other.
2007-07-16 14:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by Henry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well You Could Always Explain to him how You feel, And That You think You two Should'nt Sleep With him Because Your Friendship mean More To You,And If he Dose'nt Feel the same and still wants to sleep with You,Maybe the friendship thing wass'n t ment to be
2007-07-16 14:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by ALEXX.NiiGHTMAREE 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sleeping with your friend would definitely change your relationship. It could potentially ruin your friendship. It might not, but the risk is there.
Do you see yourself in a long-term relationship with this friend? If not, then I recommend keeping sex out of your relationship. However, it's ultimately your decision how you'll proceed in this situation. You'll have to decide this for yourself.
2007-07-16 14:24:46 · answer #7 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to talk to your friend... Explain to him that your friendship with him is more important than anything else at this time. If sleeping with him shall change it, perhaps you should avoid it. If he also finds your friendship important, then he should understand your point. Maybe you just need to give it time to really discover your true feelings for each other. If it leads you to being lovers, then don't fight it and let fate run its course.
2007-07-16 14:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm...the fact that your friend just bluntly insinuated sleeping with you, not having a relationship or even going out or anything, should tell you that he is only wanting one thing, I'd say as soon as you sleep with him things will definitely change. If he were a real friend and knew you liked him he wouldn't be toying with your emotions and asking you to sleep with him. If he liked you then he would want more than just sex. Sounds to me like he is disrespecting you and that is not someone you should keep as your friend if you truly value yourself. Good Luck!
2007-07-16 14:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard situation for you -- think hard about how you feel. Does he generally really care about you, or is he just a horny guy? If you care a lot about hm, and are willing to commit to a relationship, I'd say move forward. But remember, it is true that "you can't go back to holding hands" as they say, and things will be different if you don't succeed in an intimate relationship. Whatever you decide, you both need to communicate your feelings to each other....
2007-07-16 14:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by xfilekel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Terri,
I can connect to your situation.
It is true that ladies your age need loving and guys your friend's age need having sex. Both of you want seperate things.
What you need now is right company and your friend is definitely not right company. Wake-up girl and disconnect.
It might sound difficult but i know you want to do the right thing.
Have a wonderful day ahead.
Nuch
2007-07-16 22:31:33 · answer #11 · answered by Nuch the Wise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋