she scares the heck out of me,but say she does good when i'm not riding with her,she's 43 just got her license 3 months ago
2007-07-16 14:05:22 · 9 answers · asked by dizzydaddy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
is everyone else gripping the door or just you?
could be it just feels wierd to you to have her drive.
hang on.
2007-07-16 14:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by The French Connection 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find my husband makes me nervous whilst I'm driving the car. Your wife could be the same way.
If she has been given a license by the authorities then she has passed the test. She needs more confidence and you unfortunately may be unknowingly silently criticizing her driving technique.
Words don't have to be spoken. Feelings can be felt too.
Because of her age she may feel ill at ease when you are in the car with her. Maybe she needs a lot more driving experience on her own to boost her self-confidence.
There are advanced driving schools around that give extra tuition like what to do when you fish-tail or skid on wet roads.
Make some enquiries first and then suggest both of you take the lessons.
2007-07-18 11:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by i love my garden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you comment a lot on her driving or show much fear of being in the car with her it probably makes her nervous and stressed and that has bad effects on her driving skills. She knows she's being observed and judged the whole time she's driving and every little mistake she makes will give you the impression she's a bad driver and call on more criticism, while she really just needs a bit more practice like everyone else who has just started driving (you started somewhere yourself too).
You shouldn't try to teach her to drive. She already passed her test. She knows how to drive, she just needs practice. What you need to do is stop making her nervous. Don't criticize her driving and just give her some space to improve her driving skills.
2007-07-17 07:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by undir 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I drive EXCELLENT when my hubby's not in the car with me. When he is, I lose all thought process and get all nervous. One reason is that he is a know it all and tries to tell me where to turn and how to break and where to look. (Love ya babee!!!)
1. BE PATIENT
2. Let her make the decisions. Who's driving? She is- NOT YOU. This will give her the confidence in the future to be assertive.
3. Ask her if you can offer suggestions AFTER you arrive at your destination. If she says no, then KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT. Chances are if you keep asking and respect her answer, eventually she'll get curious and ask.
4. When coming to a quick stop or sudden turn, do not make it look like you're scared. Remember: she knows what she is going to do next, not you.
5. Love her till it hurts.
2007-07-16 21:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by sandyshortsonthesand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she already has her license, what do you need to teach her for? Sounds like she's already PASSED the test.
2007-07-16 21:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by Harleigh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send her to driving school. maybe she will relax a little bit more when you are in the car.
2007-07-16 21:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probley just intimidate her when you ride with her.
2007-07-16 21:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just tell her what shes doing that scares you.
2007-07-16 21:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would make her take the course again. tell her waht she is doing that terrifys u.
2007-07-16 21:14:04 · answer #9 · answered by amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋