I just turned 18 and i am in love with a guy who just turned 25. My mother found out i have been seeing him and absolutly FLIPPPED!
i am forbidden to see him. Untill i am 20. I know i can do what ever i want bc i am 18 but i still love my mom and would never want to hurt her. But i also know this guy is the one for me .
What should i do :'( my heart is broken
2007-07-16 14:00:09 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont miss out on a possible wonderful boyfriend. just go for it ok? tell her he lied to you and he is really 23.
2007-07-16 14:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your Mom I guess...but, awfully controlling isn't she? Maybe have a sit down and an 'adult' conversation with her. Perhaps if you started showing her you are an adult (and we are all adults at 18) she will see you with new eyes. Right now she still sees you as her little girl. The age is not a huge difference and I am sure you will be able to work it out with her - if you are willing to initiate some kind of unemotional conversation maybe she will respond better.
On the other hand, why do you care? Are you still looking to your Mom for approval?
Take care dearheart...and good luck.
2007-07-16 21:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by Cherylann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life and you are of the legal age, at least in the U. S. First decide what you want to do, with both your head and heart, and then sit down with her and tell her of your decision and why. If you can express it in words, it will be a better decision than one that is emotional. And ask for her support. Let her know that you have already made the decision but that you would like her support and love. Tell her you will love her no matter what she thinks and even if she won't support you. Good luck.
2007-07-16 21:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still live at your mom's house than you still live by her rules but, I believe that she allow you to make more adult decisions. Your not doing anything illegal so I think you should stand up and what you want in this situation even if it means breaking mommy's heart. Talk to your mom and hope for the best. Remember even when your 50 your mom will always treat you like your a kid and give there best advice.
2007-07-16 21:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by Steven M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in this situation I think mother knows best. If you think that he's the one then he will wait. Ever stopped to think that mommy sees something you may not see? Time always tells. Ask her if it's okay if you two can be friends for the time being. Enjoy your youth before you settle down for something of that severity. Take the time to travel, go to college or take up a trade, etc. Find you first.
2007-07-16 21:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by LT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that to your mom as long as you are a mautre woman for your age then I dont see what the problem is with you dating the 25 yr old guy. Your mom is just freaking out because she thinks he is using you and that you will get hurt in the end. TALK to your mom ASAP!
2007-07-16 21:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could tell you to listen to you mom and finish your education first but if the dude is 25 and single, he probably already has a job also. So go for it, you only live once and it had worked before. If not, leave him and go back to your mom. You might loose him but you will never loose your mom. But, seriously, consider your own education first and you will never need a man to support you. That's what your mom wants.
2007-07-16 21:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by Geradeaus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has no age limit and your mom should be wise enough to know that. But, she is only looking out for your best interest, so if you do love him so much come up with a agreement with your mom like you won't consider marriage until your 21 as a compromise.
2007-07-16 21:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by flashdman11 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he really likes you and wants to be around you, then talk to your mother in a calm, mature manner. Something like this could help, as long as he is as interested in you and is willing to work with you.Ask her if she would compromise by allowing him to come visit you in your home and do stuff with your family. This might allow her to get to know him and see if his intentions are honorable. As trust is built, she might eventually become agreeable with an occaisional date out. At the same time maybe you could do stuff with his family...he may not live at home, but maybe his famliy is close by.
Sounds like maybe you are still in school, and living under your parents roof... be respectful...if it is supposed to be, then it will work out
2007-07-16 21:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by sreshowtime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes mothers knows best. Why not go to her and find out why she want you to wait until you are twenty. It appears she knows something you do not know. At eighteen you have not yet begone to live, give yourself a break and listen to your mother.
How do you know he is the one for you because he said so. Guys lie. Is he prepared to wait until you finished school> is he ready to marry you? have you considered the consequences of this relationship on your life? listen to your mother.
2007-07-16 21:08:53 · answer #10 · answered by I Wanna Know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart honey. I'm 18 and my boxing instructor is 37 and him and I are dating right now. we're in love. But just remember there is a difference between lust and love. Good Luck.
2007-07-16 21:15:36 · answer #11 · answered by Lil Italian Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋