Please help me in regards to my boyfriend situation??

Question

Here is some background about me.I just recently turned 29 years in old in which the last 3years I have been divorced(not sure if this matters),also I have no kids. I took 1 /1/2 year to find myself also figure out what I was looking for in a boyfriend. The other 1/1/2 years I did start dating again. The last 6/1/2 months I met this guy in which we had alot in common. The guy is 35 years old just F.Y.I. He has a 15 year old who lives with the aunt,12 year old daughter lives with the grandparents,both daughters have a different mom,recently he just told me he has a 6 year old son who lives with the grandparents as well also has a different mom.His 12 year old daughter is having surgery in which he has been spending time with her but he won't take me camping to meet the daughter's grandparents or activites the daughter is in.He says its his past relationships but why introduce me to her? He always leaves in which comes back later.I never can go.there is more to this but I need help

I am not sure what else I typed but he lied about how he recieved one coworkers phone number in which he said it was for his friend but all of a sudden the other coworker took it off of a piece of paper. When I ask how would you feel it's mean comments or something else.Everything turns into a argument which I can't deal with. I do communicate with him but in one year and out the next. The reason why I bring up the different moms and his kids is I want to get remarried when I am ready also I myself would like children. It seems like he always wants me to sit at home with no life or not to go out or if I do im cheating in which he starts a fight with me. I like having fun also meeting people. Yes he has verbally abused me also grabbed me hard in which he runs to my family to create lies or to hurt me..I have left also avoided him but its getting worst and then he says he will get help but keeps on hiding everything also disappearing im not sure if he is cheating so please help

Answer 1

wow, well this is not, nor will it ever be a healthy relationship. how do you know if he will change eventually or not? Just look at this man's track record. Not only does he have children by three different women but most importantly he does not support any of his children let alone the women who bore his children, the women he also once loved just like you. The last thing you want is a relationship with this man that may lead to a child one day...do you actually think the fourth is the charm? You should not tie yourself down to an abusive relationship. Your still young at twenty-nine but I'd hate to think that one could be so naive after all that soul searching. This man is reckless and being in love with him makes your perception of him cloudy, but that does not change the fact that this is an unhealthy relationship. You want to be with someone who brings out the good in you, and lets you be yourself. Both people involved in a healthy relationship are loved, nurtured and they flourish, they are the others, "better half". Does this sound like it could ever be a relationship you could have with this man? No. So don't settle for him. At the young age of 29 I know you can find the right man for you. You can find a good man (there are a lot of them, believe it or not) but not as long as you are in this unhealthy way of love. I wish the best for you, good luck.

Answer 2

Find someone else. This guy has three kids from three different women. All three of these kids live with someone else (he does not take care of ANY of them). This should give you all the clues you need to really see what kind of a guy he really is.

Answer 3

you may sense sorry for her that she remains so linked to her ex. She can not legally provide up your BF from seeing his son and if she says she would have the ability to he could tell her that he will take her to court and have visitation desperate for the duration of the courts. She is obviously very jealous and nonetheless has emotions for her ex so in the 1st occasion it must be well worth your BF asking in case you may all connect up for a communicate appropriate to the newborn. purely tell her which you have not any objective of attempting to be his Mum as he already has her yet that as his Dads GF it would be much better in case you and your BF and the newborn ought to spend time collectively. stable success

Answer 4

i don't think it is a good sign when a man has 3 children with 3 different moms. u could be #4. think this out for ur sake.