So many things happening at once what should I do?

Question

Two month ago I signed a contract to have a book published and I'm excited about that but since then I have found out that my uncle has cancer and probably won't make it and last week my grandmother was taken to the hospital for shortness of breath. My grandmother had fluid in her lungs, a calcium buildup around her heart valve and blood in her urine. Yesterday I found out she is loosing platelets. I have good reason to beleive she has lukemia. My mother died from lukemia in 2000. If my grandmother does have it then there is a good chance I will get it eventually. I'm scared not just for my grandmother and uncle, but for myself as well. I'm engaged and I don't want him to go through what my father went through when my mother died. What should I do? I have been thinking about making out a will. Should I or am I just jumping to conclusions. Please help. Serious answers only. Non-serious answers will be reported as abuse.

Answer 1

OK - first of all, Congratulations on the book contract!

Now, stop, take a breath and relax. You have a lot on your plate. Your grandmother will be well taken care of at the hospital. If, God forbid, she has lukemia, she can still live a long time and she has had a long, I assume good life.

As for your uncle, they are doing a lot with cancer now. Never stop believing that things can;t get better. My husband is fighting an acute melanoma and was told he had 9 months at the most and we are fighting to prove them wrong....and I
know we are going to win this battle.

Now, if you feel comforted writing a will - do so. Any adult over 21 should have one anyway. But don't do it because you are sure you are going to get sick and die.

Some cancers are familial, but since you are aware of your family history, make sure you have regular check-ups and know all you can about the disease and if you think anything is amiss, seek medical advise at once instead of letting yourself worry.

I would call the doctor and ask for some anti-anxiety medicine to help you through this rough period of your life. I am normally a calm, pulled together person, but once my husband's cancer showed up and we started a series of doctor visits, surgeries, etc. I called and said I needed help. I only take the pills when I feel out of control. I also began Lexapro which has helped me a lot. Speak with your doctor.

When we think negative thoughts it affects our body. You need to try to stay positive. I know that it can be difficult at this time. I use Beliefnet. com a lot. I also meditate, and do water yoga and tai chi. There is a cancer center near us and my husband and I take meditation classes there as well as attend the support groups. Check with your area hospitals or with your doctor to see if such a group exists in your area. You can also contact the American Cancer Society at 800/ACS-2345, or www.cancer.org. They have wonderful resouces. My daughter found a social worker who speaks with both of us to help us through rough times. There is a lot of help out there. You are not alone.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Don't let all of this chaous and sadness mask the joy and pride of having your book published. Share your joy and happiness with your uncle and grandmother. Your joy would be good medicine for them.

Answer 2

you are really jumping the gun here. Just because family members have medical problems is no reason to think you will. While it's true that genetics play a role in some disease processes, you can hardly live your life based on what MIGHT happen. In the first place, you could get hit by a truck tomorrow and be killed, is that going to t stop you from leaving your house for the rest of your life? I doubt it. You have genes from both of your parents, and Leukemia is a recessive gene, you have a dominant gene from your dad you have no worries. Don't live your life based on what MIGHT happen, live it based on what IS happening. You need to of course, stay as healthy as you can, and all the other stuff that goes with living today, but for heaven's sake, don't you have enough to worry about without doing that to yourself?

Answer 3

Dear Anna, having a will in place is always good ideal, but not for just because this situation. Try to be strong for your family and comfort them with your care and love. Anybody could get cancer anytime, not just people with family history of cancer. Do not let this control your live. Let us know when your book published. Best wishes!

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with having a will and a living will also, sometimes called an advanced directive. Every one should have one regardless. Get it done, and have peace of mind.
Don't live in fear of what "might" happen because no one knows what the future holds. Family history is no guarantee you will develop this disease. Wishing you the best, hang tough.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

you can't live you life on what might happen because it may never actually happen. Also, you should still have a will just for the peace of mind that everything is taken care of in the future.

Answer 7

Did you know ...(it's a statistical fact) that over 90 pc of what we think will happen ...does'nt turn out that way .....think on ....thats why worry is a complete waste of time ...