There's this guy (let's call him Matt) I see virtually everday during the summer who I've liked since I was NINE (now I'm almost 14)!!! He's cute and he seems like a really nice guy. I used to be really good friends with him when we were younger, but now we've sort of drifted apart. I REALLY REALLY like Matt, but I think he's more interested in this other girl, and she's totally into this other guy, Mike. How do I get Matt's attention and tell him I'm interested more subtly than "I like you. Do you like me?" (when I tried that, I had my heart broken, so I'm not going to do that)? He's a really reserved guy, so walking up to him and just talking to him, which would normally work with any other guy, isn't an option. I like the "catch his eye, smile, bite your lip and look away" thing, which I'm going to try. Any other ideas, tips and opinions?
2007-07-16 12:30:35 · 16 answers · asked by born2run106 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Uhhhh...I don't think he'd be too happy with me holding his leg up in the air. I think he'd freak out actually....
2007-07-16 12:45:02 · update #1
Wait untill you reach dating age.
2007-07-16 12:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you got your heart broken by being honest and straightforward with another guy...but you have to understand this: when you say that to a guy, you need to be ready for both possible outcomes: Yes or NO!
That being said, you're 13, and as others have said, should really be thinking about things other than boyfriends...however, hormones are what they are and you're bound to have to deal with them. You just need to make sure you don't treat school as "the dating game". It's not a store for boyfriends, but providing a place to learn how to deal with social issues is part of why it's there.
If you like this guy that much, and you used to talk to him all the time, just start talking to him more now. If he asks you why you're suddenly paying more attention to him, just say that you find him interesting and that you've decided that you miss talking to him and his company. If he's interested in you in a bf/gf way, he'll warm up to you that way. If he just wants to be friends, then what the heck, at least you have someone you like that you can talk to again....right?
2007-07-24 06:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of young love---millions have these issues---no big deal---just let nature take its course--in the meantime--remember that you all are getting older--emotions, attractions, dating, ---these are still new to you people. So dress appropriately, be well groomed---talk to this guy and everyone else like an educated young person--have fun and see if he notices you---I mean you aren't a stranger to him--he might be looking for NEW girls to date or meet--that is his choice. Maybe he will notice you---then you can ask him for lunch or coffee--if he says no--you got your answer---MOVE ON--no guarantees that he has to notice you or ask you out--that's life. Why don't you look for new people---expand your horizons---GOD you're only 14. Relax, smile and good luck
2007-07-16 19:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i got one. Focus on school!! your 13! its not like you guys are going to get married eventually..relationships don't last that long.
Leave it alone. Once he realizes that you are not paying attention to him anymore, then his attention will drift your way.
You cant force someone to like you, so just live your life, go to school make friends. Just dont waste your time trying to get a boyfriend. That will come all in time...........
2007-07-16 19:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by fkinhologram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with him at lunch or w/e and start to talk about how things have changed since you two have gotten older. tell him about all the fun things you did and eventually he will warm up. Then start to talk about the ppl you like/d then eventually lead onto or hint that you have an interest in him. hopefully i was able to lay down a path for you. sry it was a bit choppy.
2007-07-16 19:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by jasx501 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always liked girls who have expressed interest in me
because I was shy. If this guy is shy he then has the option and
time and also gains confidence to get together with you if
he knows you like him. Get a third person to tell him you like him and want to get to know him further.
2007-07-16 19:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by gv farmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a note or email him. When i had my problem, walking on and telling him wasn't one of my options, i told him by secretly giving him a note or sending an email.
2007-07-24 18:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by StarDream221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just said this guy is some kinda reserved so. it wold be more easy for you to attract him towards you.. reserved guy huh means he will be the same to other girls too.. just get to him before some else get there.. believe me.. its not a big deal can be shorted out
2007-07-24 17:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by d_sid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love you Lamak from Claudia D. Nelson.
2007-07-16 19:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the matchmaking thing between matts other interest and her other boyfriend.
or if you want the NON-EVIL plan, just tell him how you feel. is that so hard?
2007-07-24 10:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋