ok so im not popular or anything but im accepted and friendly with the people who are well known and i am happy being there, well anyways there was this sorta odd guy who is really nice and just sorta misunderstood and nobody really gave him a chance including me. so all of a sudden i started being nice to him because i don't like being mean and its summer so nobody would know. all of a sudden like i am totally crushing on him and constantly thinking about him, its really tough because if i go for it i could loose all my friends and i would be made fun of but i really like him because he is just not like the other guys, but he is sorta strange. what should i do?
2007-07-16 12:21:46 · 28 answers · asked by justwondering101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i say that if they really yo friends n not jus associates they'll still stick by you regardless of the decision you make, if he is the amazing person that you see him for, your friends should give it a chance and try to see the same thing in him. Choose wisely though, cuz i mean according to your popularity status, you may cherish your social status somewhat.. so it may be a mistake for that, however, if he's such a great guy and you believe loving him will be a good experience, and he will love you too.. go for it, or you can maintain being good friends instead... but once again thats jus my opinion lol =P You g2 be real wit the man though, because you kind of are swaying towards your social status more, since you made the claim that "its summer so nobody would know" but yet you found out he's a great guy. You took a chance at doing that, when someone could have found out, and gained a new friend that you thought you wouldn't. So why not take another chance, and see how loving him will be since he's the wonderful guy you say he is and you have crush on him, real friends will support your decision.
2007-07-16 12:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by KaOs 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nobody has the right to judge YOU--your life--your friends--your dates--or anything that you do. You can't pass up a few fun dates because of other people. Standing up to all this criticism makes you a better person--I mean, you are just going to tell them to mind their own business...that's all !! I am sure the person is not strange---everyone is an individual--even you--so what if he does things his way---he doesn't have to do things because others think he should do it. He obviously has proven to be a nice person--thanks for giving him a chance--he may be the best thing to happen to you--I mean fun dates, a respectful relationship--- a supportive friend--hey, when everyone else is sitting around with no one or with some loser--you will have a nice guy to be proud of. Have a nice summer--be careful--always do the right thing---relax smile and good luck
2007-07-16 19:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what others think. If they were your real friends, they will support your decision. Why miss out on something that could be the best thing that every happened to you?
He could be your best friend if nothing else. Get to know him slowly. It may or may not progress into anything other than friendship. If your friends make fun of you, then they are not your true friends. Go with what is in your heart, not how others think. You may make the biggest mistake of your life by listening to them play the games. Show them who is the true mature person.
2007-07-16 19:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth, you can't live your life by how others percieve you, before you know it you're going to feel the pressure and with the pressure you're going to miss out on a lot of things... expecially in who you are.
//its really tough because if i go for it i could loose all my friends and i would be made fun of but i really like him //
First of all, if they were your friends then they would be supportive for you, if they're the type of people to whisper behind your back then wy are you with them???
You seem to be inteligent, why would you be like one of the dumb sheep? Because that's who you're becoming, if this guy is 'different' and 'interesting' then I say go for it and chance it, you live once.
Besides, highschool doesn't last that long, trust me I hardly remember much of what I wore and whom I hung out which is a blessing, the 'popular' crowd would have never aproved of me I'm a free spirit, I didn't follow 'their' rules and didn't bother to 'dress' to their standards and I came out fine.
I'm sure you'll come out fine... maybe even better. This'll make you stronger no doubt, even if the felationship with this guy turns sour.
2007-07-16 19:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by Dahlias 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your a loser, plain and simple. Not liking a guy because he's "not popular" is stupid. And you think you'd lose your friends? What the hell? If you lose anyone because you date someone , then thats retarded! If you like someone - go for it. God forbid someday when you get older you look back and say "man I bet he could have made me happy". School sucks and people are too vain, don't worry so much about making others happy, make yourself happy... and if you're made fun of because of this guy, I bet you have some very juicy things you can pick on them about- odd moles? extra toes? third nipple? whatever! They'll get over it, there has to be a reason you like him, and if he grew on you, he'll prob grow on them too.
2007-07-16 19:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by york_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if people can't accept you for who you are and what you like then they aren't worth it. And honestly if you really liked someone would you care if the whole world didn't? I mean what i'm saying is the friends that reject you for going out with someone you really like are totally fake. I'm not trying to be mean. So don't take it the wrong way.
2007-07-16 19:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by Allie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those are usually the best kind of guys! You'll find out after high school that some of the biggest "nerds" will turn out to be the best husbands, dads and make good money! High school can be so hard with worrring about friends and stuff but it's simply not worth it and means nothing once you're out of high school. Think about your future now and what kind of person YOU want to be....not what THEY want you to be. Good luck. I hope it works out for the both of you.
2007-07-16 19:26:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no offense but you sound young and shallow
if they stop being your friend just because of the guy they werent turely your friends , they may disagree but stoping being friends is juvienial.
if you like him and he's nice to you go for it and stop worrying so much about what others think. if your accepted now you'll be accepted when your going out
2007-07-16 19:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by nikky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this guy interested in you? you shouldn't care what your friends think just ask yourself this question {would any of my friends date or stop dating someone just because I like or disliked them} it should only matter what you want this is your life not theirs. You will be kissing and doing things with this individual not your friends. My thoughts are that what really matters are your wants, life is too short to be living your life trying to please others.
2007-07-16 19:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by dream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Do Not think about what your friends think, if they can't be happy for you than they aren't your true friends!!!! And you should give him a chance...ya know so many girls are worried about loosing friends or being made fun of or losing their "position" in high school....but if you truly like him than what should it matter what other people think???
*J*
2007-07-16 19:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lorinda 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋