There is this woman at work who doesnt like me. She thinks i'm seeing her lover(she and her lover are both married and work in same building as me). This woman is a nutcase,and now she is turning all the other women against me. I was taking a break in one of the rooms and looking through my phone when she walked in,then she walked back out said out loud so everyone could hear 'she's probably txting (his name)'. I have also heard the other women talking about me behind my back. I have done nothing wrong,she is the one in the wrong making me feel uncomfy at work and having an affair. What is her problem?i am younger and skinnier so maybe she see's me as a threat?i refuse to move elsewhere,but how do i deal with this?
2007-07-16 12:01:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S not sure if i explained myself properly but this woman is cheating on her husband with this guy at work.
2007-07-16 12:13:37 · update #1
Talking to her may not work if she is sure in her twisted mind that you are sleeping with her man. I would go to your boss and explain whats going on. If you cant go to your boss for some reason go to the HR department, that's one of the reasons it exists, to deal with issues between workers. I would just be nice to the other girls there at your work. They will see you are not what this person has told them. What makes this even more interesting is what is her little fella doing to get her to stop this bull. He may be encouraging it for some unknown reason. I mean you know this makes him look bad to. Maybe she is mad at him and wants to get him fired and you being pretty, which you must be, because women never pick on the ugly girls like this. Gives her some ammunition. That would also explain why the other whores, oops sorry I mean Ladies are taking her side. They see you as a threat to them because you are so pretty. Just go to your boss or Human Resources and tell them whats going on. This is causing a hostel work environment and is slandering your name. Then they will deal with her. I hope this has help you some, I am sorry that fools are out there like this.
2007-07-16 12:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try to talk to this 'problem' woman one-on-one. Even if she's a nutcase, if you talk to her and show her you're concerned (and that nothing is going on with her partner) she might back off. Right now, you're just a threat to her--not a person with feelings. Tell her how you feel about her actions. If she knows you're hurting and upset, she might come around.
If that doesn't work, see your boss/supervisor and get him/her to talk to this gossipmonger. It's unproductive and damaging to the workplace so it needs to stop.
As a last resort, try to transfer to another part of the company or another job. I think, though, that getting a boss to put a stop to it will definitely work.
2007-07-16 12:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by adverseanatomy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good thing is that this is happening at work so Im sure there must be a policy at work regarding harrasment or employee's conduct, let your supervisor know about this situation, be very specific about words, places, times and people involved during these hostile activities. Most important, document it every time it happens.meaning keep record of it, write down on a piece of paper who told you what, when and where and be very specific.
2007-07-16 12:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by tatys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she does see you as a threat. Have you tried talking to her about it? I would just let her know you have no interest in her husband and you would appreciate it if she would not talk about you behind you back. If she continues, I would talk to the boss about it. She's making you uncomfortable at work, and that's not cool.
2007-07-16 12:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by Misoblond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is called a hostile work envionment and you need to talk to your human resource/personnel director...type out what you want to say,( I would leave out the stuff about the supposed affair, none ya bizyness, but say she is commenting on what she thinks you are doing and it is not her business)) make 2 copies, read it to personnel, have them sign both copies, you keep one and one into you file. ALWAYS document anything you say to personnel. Ask them what they are going to do about this, and when. Tell them you expect the other woman to be spoken to and written up for this. And told she is not to harass or intimidate you, or speak about you to others.
Show them you are not going to allow yourself to be treated this way.
2007-07-16 12:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by sreshowtime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her that you are not having an affair with her husband and if she still doesn't believe you maybe you should tell your boss or someone so they could talk to her. Then if she continues to harass you i say sleep with her man for revenge(maybe he's a great pleasurer and she's afraid to lose him to you.) if i were you i'd screw him anyways just for the excitement.
2007-07-16 12:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by lil bad azz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like a nutcase and she also sounds jealous because you are younger and probably prettier than she is. maybe you should just confront her and ask her what her problem is. good luck :)
2007-07-16 12:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now thats funny. talk to your boss about it. and talk to the other people and clear things up. you havent been doing anything wrong, right? so who are they to judge you? that woman is a psycho and should be fired.
thats abuse in the workplace, actually. report it to your boss,.
2007-07-16 12:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by Concerned 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's probably just jealous of you. Ignore her and after she sees that you don't care she'll eventually stop. Good luck! =)
2007-07-16 12:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by Cooℓ Smιℓεys :D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her push your buttons*.. Kill her with kindness as difficult as it is*. Though shall not bear false witness against thy neighbor*.. She will answer and suffer one day for misrepresenting you*.. Don't worry, be happy, I like you*...
2007-07-16 12:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋