I have been dating this guy for a few months now,he's not the best looking guy ever but we get on and he makes me laugh. Only problem is i find it hard to kiss him,in the beginning i told him i could'nt kiss him because of his smokers breath,now he's quit but i still cant stand kissing him,he wants a full on snog. Do you think i'm like this because i dont fancy him much?he also keeps dropping hints about us sleeping together,and the thought kind of repulses me,i wasnt like this with the one man i truely loved in the past. This guy is really nice personality wise but i cant get physical,whats up?
2007-07-16 11:42:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not attracted to him physically. Sometimes that changes over time but if it's been a few months you should probably break up. Other than him changing himself physically, I dont' see how you can make this work. You can tell him "I don't feel the same way I did when we started going out" or "this relationship isn't progressing as I hoped."
2007-07-16 11:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by bluejester12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems you know how you feel. tell the guy you can not go there. you don't want to do it. or just be friends. you don't have to date him just because y'all get along so well and he is nice and fun to be around. if you are not feeling it now you never will. just do it so you don't loose the friendship you all got. you are not attracted to him physically just emotionally. there is nothing wrong with that. and hey sex can wait any way. just don't let it go on to long or it will get even harder for you to deal with it. just get it together and tell him you all are better as friends and you are sorry but dating is not the thing for y'all. let him know. don't tear his heart out. break to him easy and make sure you start off saying we have so much fun hanging out and we are such good friends. then tell him how much you like his company. then you have to let him know also there is this problem that i do not see us dating much longer and i don't want to get to the point we would loose out friendship so i would like to just be friends. i can not see not having you as a friend. i just don't feel like dating is the thing for us. maybe later but now is not good. good luck and hope y'all can stay friends. i would not date for several months so he does not get hurt by a sudden relationship with some one else starts up. don't want to get him jealous to soon.
2007-07-16 18:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by trish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that ur thinking hes only a friend and u dont like the thought of sleeping with him is fine.
if u dont want 2 kiss him, then that means u dont feel anything special for this guy.
if u have a hard time breaking up with this guy, explain to him that its just not working out and u just wanna remain friends.
2007-07-16 18:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your body is telling you something you need to know!!! For some reason this is not the right time to be with this guy. Back it off to a friendship and let time show you the truth.
2007-07-16 18:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mother Amethyst 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u dont really like him, then u shoudlnt be wasting ur time with him anyway. But if he keeps pushing the subject he's an asshole. Get rid of him, find someone better.
2007-07-16 18:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you like him as just a friend, not as a boyfriend.
Be honest with him - tell him you really appreciate him and enjoy him as a friend, but you can't seem to develop any romantic/sexual feelings for him, and you don't want to lead him on any further.
2007-07-16 18:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no chemistry for you and sounds like he won't be happy just 'being friends'. Time to move on.
2007-07-16 18:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by Me in Canada eh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up and go find a healthy clean guy.
2007-07-16 18:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by Mike1942f 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant do it cuz it doesnt feel right, please dont. He sounds more like a friend, maybe you can keep it that way before he falls to hard for you.
2007-07-16 18:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by emily66 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no offense but dont be so shallow at least try to kiss him see where it goes if you truly cant get with the kiss you need to leave him
2007-07-16 18:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by flyygirlvirgo 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋