I know that I have asked the question twice before, but nothing I try seems to work. My son is 3 and not potty trained. He will sit on the potty, but nothing. I have to ask if he has to go potty, and he always says NO! I take him in to help him get the idea...he will sit and just giggle his little head off....or he will grunt...but Nothing! I have tried pull-ups, training pants...but according to mom-in-law and hubby they leak! My mom-in-law watches my son while I am at work...and Hubby sees him once or twice a day. I can't get her or my hubby to see the importance of potty training him. How much easier it would be on his bottom, our pocketbook, and him for pre-school!!! I am just about to put him in daycare for a couple of weeks in hopes that the daycare provider can get him trained. I admit it...I can't spend the time necessary to work with him...as I work full-time. My mom-in-law is with him the most, and thinking that she raise a boy 42 years ago...I need HELP!!!!
2007-07-16 11:26:12 · 13 answers · asked by poopsiemom031904 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am not going to start spanking son....that is just plain stupid!!!
Please...real advice only!!!
2007-07-16 11:30:09 · update #1
He will do it when he is ready, try the reward system, every time he at least sits on the potty give him a sticker, the first time he finally goes potty give him a mini party, play music, dance a lil bit and give him a little toy, this will let him know that going potty can be fun. One of the things I did with my kids was about 15 min after they ate take them in to the restroom and have them sit on the potty until something happens, make sure he drinks LOTS of water and eats fairly well, he should at least go pee, then you can have your first mini party and see what happens from there. Good luck!
2007-07-16 12:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by lavinnar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs consistency
throw out all the diapers and have him choose his favorite cartoon character under ware.
is it possible for you to take 2 weeks holiday to train him your self? If he is ready to be trained then it should only take a week or so. summer is great because you are out side so if he has an accident it's not so bad.
make sure he drinks plenty of water.
take him to the potty every time you go, 20 minutes after he eats or drinks, and when ever you see him squirm or hold himself(as he may need to go)
put him on for 5-7 minutes at a time
make a big deal out of any potty progress and say nothing about an accident except "oops looks like you missed the potty, here's where the potty is, (show him the potty)maybe next time you'll go."
if possible have a second potty. one for the bathroom and one for whatever room you are in, so he can get to it quickly.
dress him in under ware and a t-shirt only.
2007-07-16 13:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by Greeneyed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok. I'm babying sitting a three yr old boy who juts started 4or 5 months ago.
First off buy him a little stool that can fit in your bathroom. Next sit him on his potty or tolet and if needed use the stool as a leg rest. Give him some books and let him sit there for a while. Keep him there for about 25-30 minutes. If nothing happens take him off the potty and let him go on hi way. Do this how ever mnay times you can fit it into your day. This way he gets use to the bathroom and the potty. Also everyday go over the steps of using the washroom so he doesn't get confused. Reward him with a treat everytime he uses the washroom. May sure BOTH you Mother - inlaw and your Husband both follow those steps or it won't work.
Don't worry, it will happen soo enough, he can't hold it in forever ! :P
2007-07-16 12:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by Candiegirl17 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to a day care home provider. Trust me, she's heard more bizarre stories than this. Ask if she or someone she knows (These folks have organizations, too) is good at training boys because this has become a power struggle between the two of you.
Chances are, when he sees that other kids are potty-trained and the day care provider acts matter-of-fact about it, he'll be trained in a few days. Once it's firmly established there, have the provider tell you in front of him that he's trained. Express pleasure, hug him, brag on him to any likely looking person at the grocery, laundry, etc on the way home and to Grandma and Dad. Make a big production of getting rid of the supplies.
Since some kids hate to lose their stuff, ask him if there are any special pants you should save for when he has a little boy. That way the things are saved, but they "can't" be used. (I know that sounds nuts, but it worked with my little boys. They could happily put away their old favorites if they decided which to give away and which to save for "grandchildren.")
2007-07-16 11:40:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
All it took for my daughter was a little pep talk from my sister. She told my daughter doesn't she want to be a big girl like her daughter? And after that my daughter started to use the potty.
However, being with Grandma all day cannot help the situation. I think my mother-in-law cried when I threw all the bottles away and then went and bought some more. You are the mother and will have to tell the mother-in-law what you expect for your son, not what she expects from him.
Maybe if he did go to the daycare he will see kids his age going to the potty and want to go as well..
Godd luck hope all goes well soon..
2007-07-16 11:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by MOM of 3 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My trick was the old cotton training pants. That's what I bought my daughter. Then I made sure the potty was in easy reach all day. She was potty trained in a couple of weeks. The cotton pants are very uncomfortable when they're wet so it's a good incentive to use the potty. They're cheaper, since you just wash them and use them again.
2007-07-16 11:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by Kat H 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A guys opinion here...
It sounds like your son, mother in-law and husband are just too lazy to deal with potty training.
I agree with the other sentiments where you just stop putting him in diapers. If they leak, your son will figure out it's best to go potty on the potty... your mother in-law will find it messy and will start training him.
I'm surprised your husband isn't more embarrassed that his 3 year old, almost 4 probably, is still wearing diapers.
2007-07-16 11:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by Dave C 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I had my daughter potty trained by age 18 months and it took 2 weeks. Here's how:
Step 1: Do NOT dress your son while at home. That's right, leave him naked
Step 2: At the end of the 2 weeks, rent a Rug Doctor.
Problem solved.
2007-07-16 11:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
This is finally what worked with BOTH my kids, one boy and one girl.
Just put him in underwear. Just do it. It will be messy at first, obviously, and that sucks. But once I put both my kids in plain old underwear, it took them about a week to be potty trained. They didn't like the feeling of being messy and wet---plus they liked the idea of picking out their own underwear (with all the cool cartoon characters and such).
All that pleading, begging, worrying....and plain old underwear did the trick in a week.
Hope that helps, and good luck!
2007-07-16 11:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by Calliope 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I let me son go a couple of extra minutes after he wet his diaper before changing him. He got very uncomfortable and after doing this for several days he went on his own. He hated the wet diaper feeling. If the diaper is leaking, you can purchase rubber or plastic pants to put over the diaper. Good luck!
2007-07-16 11:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Jill S 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋