hey everyone i been married for 3 years and i recently left my husband 2 months ago to be my own woman and i am now free and living on my own.i dont care to say much about the marriage from hell but i came here to ask a question.ok here is the question.......since i moved out i have not had sex with another man not even so much as a kiss.i been on a few dates though even though im still married,but for me it dont matter if im still married while dating because i will NEVER EVER IN LIFE GET MARRIED AGAIN......NOT UNLESS YOU PUT A GUN TO MY HEAD and threaten to harm my fAMILY! now my question is ....i feel like im waiting for someone to be in love with like maybe that is y im dating to find a man i dunno...and i think that is because i was married but never experienced romantic times and all the normal stuff that i did not have in my marriage and i am craving that feeling......or should i just not worry bout love and just have sex buddies and just sleep around enjoy my "singlehood" ?
2007-07-16 10:32:13 · 20 answers · asked by sweetsabina88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. Find or wait for a man that will love you for what you are.
2007-07-20 11:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard the "I'll never get married again" promise :)
Listen, you had a bad marriage, it happens, almost half of all marriages end in divorce today. What you do now will define who you are for the rest of your life...so be careful.
You're a grown woman, so you know you can satisfy yourself without anyone else if that's all you want. If, however, you want to be with a man, then start over. Date men you're attracted to; don't be too easy, don't think you "have" to put out or get out, but don't hold back if you really want to have sex with the guy. Don't let yourself become someone's booty-call and don't get the reputation of being "friendly" with a lot of guys...if you do, they'll treat you just the way you act...cheap.
Take your time, you just got out of a relationship, so enjoy being able to date and have some fun without sex being part of the agenda. If the guy who takes you out only wants to have sex with you, then he's paying for sex with dinner and a movie and is treating you like someone you'd find on a street corner. However, if you really like the guy and you think he likes you more than just wants you, then go for it. If you make sex a small thing, it will never be an important thing, and sex in your next relationship will seem shallow.
2007-07-23 23:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think sleeping around is the answer that you are searching for. I think you should enjoy being single, meeting people (men and women) and learning about yourself. Sex is still a committment. You can never be sure what people are hiding in their pants (diseases). Remember, when you sleep with someone then you are sleeping with everyone they have slept with. It's not worth the sacrifice. Plus, you are probably at a fragile state of mind and if they really only want sex and you want more - guess who will be disappointed. Hold off on the sex, it will be there. Find yourself first. Good luck.
2007-07-24 09:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mysterious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was legally married 20 years. We stopped having sex in 2004, we split in 2005 and I didn't go on my first date till mid 2006. And I didn't have sex again till late 2006. I didn't plan it that way but like you, I had the marriage from hell and I chose not to sleep with just anyone, I was picky. And I'm glad I waited. That relationship didn't last more than a couple months but I learned alot about myself in those couple years. I was lonesome too, craved someone to be romantic with and treat me decently. I'm with somebody now that I'm very happy with and he was definitely worth the wait!
2007-07-24 09:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Today's world advocates women to use their sexuality and not be cooped up like some 50's woman. But I believe personally, that if you turn yourself into THAT woman who sleeps with almost every guy she dates, you wont feel great about yourself.
My advice is to take it easy. Respect yourself and demand respect. Definitely if you feel like moving a date to the bedroom, then do it. But I feel, since you had a serious lack of romance in your marriage, you should still be seeking that perfect guy. I believe he's out there. Just don't waste your youth just waiting around. It's cool to play the field while waiting!
2007-07-24 07:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex buddies are a dangerous thing to have in this day and age. Enjoy being single....go out with you girlfirends...connect with old friends, and maybe think about starting a relationship after a while..not every relationship leads to marriage.
I've been single for 5 months....girl trust me I know what you are saying but at the end of the day it's not worth it.
2007-07-24 02:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by amanda k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down and work on getting divorced from your husband before you start dating and looking for love.
Then you can begin to work on yourself so you will not end up with another man like your husband. This comes from working on the hang ups that you have in your life. Like why you date losers and what keeps you interested in meeting men that do not measure up to the woman that you are? Once you begin to explore the meaningful parts of yourself, you will then begin to find a man that wants you for who you are and not disrespect your body by having sex buddines and sleeping around to get AIDS, warts and all types of diseases, let alone the loneliness you will feel in your heart because these types of women are lonely and sad...
2007-07-24 10:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you pose is a hard one for anyone else to answer....You need to make you happy...That means if finding friends with benefits for a while works then do that....or wait for the right person to come along and have that security feeling of a dedicated relationship back.....You need to explore your new found freedom...through this exploration you will find the things you are searching for...Yet you must have the courage to take the step into the unknown...You will find the answer but you have to look for it....It will not drop out of the sky with out you being outside to catch it....Hope this helps....:-)
2007-07-16 10:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by scotdic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Single hood does not mean what you think is does!
being single is a great thing, it a time to self reflect on your life, a time to re-evaluate your life and implentment new beginings
the answer to your questions about sex sex sex
DO you enjoy
sexually transmitted disease
becoming not only single but a single parent
used and abused by men
a bad reputation
if yes, then have fun!!
2007-07-24 10:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldnt sleep around because ur free because u dont want to make ur self look like a slut you can date yea untill u find the next one but u dont have to get married. but im saying u can have sex but overdo it cuz its not goodi mean it takes time jus look search and u will find what u are really lookin for. BE SAFE RAP IT UP!!!!!
2007-07-24 03:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u dont get nothing from sleeping aruond with different men thats (hoeish) You should think about having your alone time then maybe dating meeting new guys so you can compare them and see which is the best for you.
2007-07-16 10:40:34 · answer #11 · answered by In love! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋