I have a poster that I love! I even had it laminated. I want to put in on the inside of my locker in my dorm. The problem is my room mate is afraid of clowns and her lockers right next to mine.
The poster is of the Joker. In the picture he looks psychotic. I love the poster and don't want to leave it behind. Should I be nice and not torment my room mate, even though she torments me with her choice of music. Or should I say screw it and put up the poster???
2007-07-16 09:52:58 · 13 answers · asked by supermanfan1986 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The inside of your locker is your own space to with as you wish!
Warn your room mate before hand, and let her know you are hanging the poster in your locker instead of your room as you know she is clown-phobic.
That way, she has the choice to look, or not, and won't get a shock if she does see the poster.
Bet wishes :-)
2007-07-16 09:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by thing55000 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, putting it on the inside of your locker (supposing it has a door) is a great compromise. It's not like you are wanting to give it a prominent position in the room.
But just tell your roomie what you are doing: "I have this poster, and although I know you hate clowns, and a lot of people do, it is very special to me, so I am going to put it on the inside of my locker, so I can have it close to me, but it won't be offensive to you."
She has to respect that.
but I wouldn't just put it up with a "screw it" attitude, even if you find her music as offensive as she finds the clowns.
Lead by example and maybe she will get the hint and tone down the music for you.
2007-07-16 17:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would probably not put it up, knowing that she doesn't like and/or is afraid of clowns.
Even though she does torment you with her music perhaps you can have a talk, and tell her that you don't care for her choice of music and suggest that maybe she use headphones. But, using her music against her and using a 'she-knows-I-hate-that-music-but-she-plays-it-anyway-so-I-will-punish-her-with-my-joker-poster' mentality would be wrong.
I think they are two separate issues and should be treated that way :) Be the bigger person, don't put it up.
Good Luck
2007-07-16 17:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by blashbaby73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the picture on the back wall of your locker, instead of on the door. That way you can still see it, but it won't be instantly viewable to her.
Warn her that you are posting a picture you know disturbs her, but that you are putting it as far out her range of vision as possible. So that way she'll know not to peer into the back of your locker.
Then, since the discussion of "being considerate to your roommate" is already open, ask her if you can form a compromise on the music in your shared room. Try to find music that you both enjoy, and agree that this can be played out loud; but that certain other artists are on the "not my cup of tea" list and should be listened to with headphones only.
2007-07-16 16:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should you say, "Screw you"? I think not, unless you are like a couple of 2 year olds. Which of you is the most grown up?
Can't you and your roommate negotiate? You remove the poster and she does not play music you don't care for.
This is how life's negotiations work - this is good practice at growing up.
2007-07-16 18:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by moonmother2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your roommate know that that you are aware of her phobia and so you will put it up inside of your locker. This way she will not have to look at it. This way you are respecting her feelings and have your poster at the same time. This should be ok as you would be being respectful. Good luck :-)
2007-07-16 17:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be considerate and not put it up.
Some people have a real fear of clowns. It's sort of different than just not liking her music.
Might I say that I think you are VERY COOL to even ask. You must be an awesome friend! There ought to be more people like you.
2007-07-16 16:57:46 · answer #7 · answered by batgirl2good 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of silly, I say your locker should be off limits to anyone's influence, unless you ask them for it. What disturbs me more is the music you are subjected to, does this mean you don't get a chance to play what you want? Competing for stereo time would drive me shi* house.
2007-07-16 19:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it up...but if it really bothers her, taking it down is the right thing to do. Even if her music does bother you, you don't necessarily need to create hostility by putting up a poster--revenge isn't always the best thing.
2007-07-16 16:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It would be nicer of you to not put it in a place where she will often see it since she has such issues with clowns.
2007-07-17 07:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋