i hate my dad?

Question

my dad has three kids but one he give up me and my brother are very close i love my brother he is 13 and i don't went him growing up with out his dad like i did my dad left me when i was 1 i seen him when i was 3 my brother tells me he hates my dad so much i say no you don't but i hate him too what should i do

Answer 1

Let your brother feel WHATEVER he feels. He has a right to his feelings. If he hates him, then he hates him.

Also, learn how to write. Bye.

Answer 2

Your brother is hurting & so are you from the fact that your father is not there & has not been there & seems to have a pattern of not being around. What you feel is resentment, confusion, pain & anger. Which can make you feel that you hate him b/c he causes you to feel these things, that you don't deserve. While I know exactly how you feel b/c at one time I hated my father as well...You will have to learn ((and this may take time)) to forgive your dad for not being the man he should have been & move foward. It took me a lonnnnng time but I eventually accepted the fact that my dad was not there, didn't want to be there but my mother was there & she loved me so much that it didn't matter if dear old pops was not there. Be thankful for the fact that you can have a lovely bond with your brother but you will have to be an example to him..Just know that it's you dad's loss for not being apart of either of your lives & that this will make you both stronger. As time goes on, you'll have to let go of the hate, it will only hinder both of your lives..Don't let someone who isn't worthy hinder anything in your life!

Answer 3

Hi---please see whatever your dad has done as adult issues and choices made by him for reasons he had. Good or bad--I don't know. Seeing all this from a young set of eyes makes it all that much more confusing.But hate is a terrible emotion--you seem consumed by it. You should be concentrating on your life--home and school--your future is up to YOU--not anything else. You can tell your brother that too. There is no reason to dwell on what your dad has done--just don't mistakes that will affect YOUR life. Always do the right thing. Relax, smile and good luck

Answer 4

I can understand how you feel the way you do. This man is supposed to be your father unconditionally, and he walked. Some people are too young and immature to have children. You and your brother should know He left because HE had problems. You were blessings and he didn't see it.
I have kids of my own, and I feel so fortunate everyday that I am their parent., My heart goes out to you.
The important thing is that you and your brother take care of each other and be the best people you can be. Make happy lives for yourselves and don't let this man's mistakes consume you. If either of you have children of your own one day, you will know the importance of cherishing them. You'll be good parents. I wish you luck and happiness.

Answer 5

Hate is such a strong word. I understand how you feel because I spent majority of my life despising my father also. But check this out he lived with us and he wasn't who he was suppose to have been in that role. Just because you grew up without your father don't mean you have to hate that man. Don't shorten your life by hating that man he isn't worth that much energy.
Like me tell you a brief bit of truth about myself. My father who lived with us, molested me. Took something from me I'll never get back. This man was a lousy provider for me, my mother and siblings. What I'm trying to say is, did any of this happen to you by your father? He just walked away true that but he wasn't in your face everyday knowing he molested his own child like mines did.
I recently lost my father to cancer and part of me wish he was still here but the bigger part says my he rest in peace. I honestly can admit I Loved My Father even through all the pain.

Answer 6

I hated my dad for years and years. I finally got enough courage together to tell him, and he had no idea. Our relationship is super different now. It crazy sometimes what you decide for people in your head. It's important to give people the opportunity to explain themselves. Tell him and see what he says. If he doesn't care- he's not worth your time. Talking about things is always better than avoiding that infamous invisible elephant in the living room. Best wishes!...

Answer 7

I'm pretty good at interpreting people's writing, but It sounds like you are talking about 3 different dads. Learn to use some punctuation and repost the question.

Answer 8

there's is something wrong with this question. What u should do is to try to know why your dad gave u up and try to encourage your brother to not to hate your father. life is full of uncertainities and that what makes you stronger. Life does not always go the way people want it to therefore you should look forward and forgive him.

Answer 9

u should tell ur dad bout this(if u guys are in contact). u should be the fatherly figure in ur brothers life in replace of ur father. he was an idiot. he left u and made u suffer. dont let ur brother suffer the same way. and explain to ur brother that he shouldnt hate him for leavin him. its juz sum people arent ready to take on the responsibilty of a parent. my father left me to. so i understand where ur coming from. ur luckier then i am though bc u at least met him. i never met mine. and good luck to u and ur brother (in general)

Answer 10

Well i really don't get why you hate your dad so you could have gave more details on why you hate.....cuz all you said is that he left you at 1 i would be bad also but i dont get why you hate him

*Hope That Helped*

Answer 11

You don't hate your dad. You have anger for his stupid choice. I can't change the choice he has made but do me a favor and don't ever doubt yourself. It's his loss. Just remind your brother that he doesn't hate him. Because holding a grudge will do nothing but make it hurt worst.