2007-07-16 09:41:23 · 30 answers · asked by Delia M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
No it isnt...As long as he has friends then it will be ok...But dont make the mistake of spoiling them to much..
2007-07-16 09:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is unfair because "Only children" as they are termed because they were the only child in that family have no concept of what "Sharing" is.
My ex is an only child and she hasn't a clue on sharing, what constitutes a relationship as everything is all one sided and right down to the reason she dumped me.
Where Two or more children exist in a family, the interaction with a sibling from the same family installs the Share concept as they have to share toys, bath times, feeds ,walks in the park, play group, and much more that the only child misses out on.
2007-07-18 05:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by cheek_of_it_all 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not as long as they have plenty of company and play time with other children. It's important with an only child not to overindulge them, as sometimes happens and then they think they can have whatever they want, when they want it. An only child can sometimes be overprotected, I suppose when you have more than one child to look after you have to spread your time and your love, so you don't have as much time to worry about absolutely everything. My Mum was an only child as my Nan couldn't have any more after her and she always said she hated it and longed for a sibling. My Grandad was a great Dad but was extremely overprotective, she always had a battle with him if she wanted to go anywhere when she was a teenager, and he was also extremely strict as he was probably afraid he would spoil her although she certainly didn't lack any love from him. When both my grandparents got very old and ill and eventually passed away my Mum said even then she would have loved a brother or sister to share and support each other through this and although she had us kids and my Dad and loved us very much I suppose when she lost her parents it felt like she had lost everyone she grew up with and shared her childhood memories. I think how many kids you decide to have is a personal thing and I think the childhood you may have had yourself can influence your decision sometimes. I suppose I've felt like an only child sometimes as my brother and sisters were teenagers when I was born so although they were great to me they weren't actually the age I could play with and they both married young so they weren't at home for very long after I was born. Having said that now we are all older and have families of our own it doesn't make any difference and we're closer. The only thing that really matters is however many kids you have, you love them all and do your best for them, that's all you can do!
2007-07-16 17:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by clara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's only unfair to yourselves if you want two children. You've got to weigh your on decision , because you and you're husband will make this childs living for 18 to 24 years. The more children you have the more you can carry on the blood line and more grand children. All of them will call on you regularly when they get older. Just weigh what you want then stick with that.
2007-07-16 16:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by LARRY P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's unfair but i only had one kid and wish i had more. Although i done everything with my daughter i do think she missed out in not having a sibling. I definitely think it makes kids stronger when they have a brother or sister.
2007-07-18 17:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by trishab352003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I had a sister who was a year younger than me and we always played together and have remained close.
However I went through a very rough pregnancy and delivery with my little girl, and it has truly put me off having any more.
So, I hope it is not unfair on the kids. It is the parents who have to be able to cope emotionally and financially though.
2007-07-16 16:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by Chocolate Bunny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would it be unfair? Because they wouldn't have anyone at home to play with? That's silly.
What would be unfair is to have a 2ND one only because you cared about what other people thought of you, or to make your first born happy. That's no reason to have another child!
You should do what is best for you and your family and not worry about insignificant little things like that.
2007-07-16 16:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by Katie C 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
My son at 18 told me he was disappointed that he did have a brother or sister and growing up he felt lonely. So I wouldn't say unfair but I would say have 2
2007-07-16 16:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by Village Player 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no not think it is unfair nor wrong to have only one child. i have a 2 yr old daughter and i love every minute of it but she is one of those kids that has everything you need for a child, love, family, manners,a basic and stability. as long as that is there the no.
2007-07-16 16:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by tia b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am an only child and was definitely not spoilt (just the opposite) it has made me appreciate my friends more and made me independent. I have 1 daughter (aged 9 ) and 2 stepsons aged 17 and 20 when they are at uni my daughter is like an only child and when they are home she has 2 brothers - perfect!
2007-07-16 16:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by hms638 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's unfair to even have one kid.
2007-07-16 16:44:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋