Why do I still feel this way?

Question

Why does a part of me still feel love for my ex? The guy abandoned me and did not speak to me for a year, then expected everything to be alright when he said he was sorry. He was having personal problems supposedly and I don't think he has ever realized how much he hurt me. Everything in me should hate him. So why don't I? And no I don't want him back.

Answer 1

It's not easy to get over someone you once loved. It takes time. It doesn't sound like he was a very good boyfriend, so it's a good thing you don't want him back. But you can't control your feelings, (although wouldn't it be wonderful if you could?) so all you can do now is wait for them to go away.

Answer 2

If he was ur first love then its totally understandable. Yeah my bf was a dick to me in the begining and now he's a whole different person cause he realized that no girl has ever loved him like i did. Hes so sweet but i know u love him and hate him at the same time, its a natural instinct. I'm not on anyones side but i think this guy feels bad cause he regrets what he did, he wants to make a mence. But if u feel that u don't want him back then thats ur decision. Its u who makes the decisions not us....member that....we are just advisors or ppl who give advice.

Answer 3

Its natural to feel that way. I find you should talk to him, sort things out, part of the reason your feeling that way is because you most likely have guilt, on weather or not you did the right thing. Also, if you don't think you are supposed to love him, then maybe you should just move on, and find some one else... but that's not the best idea. My final idea is you should see a psychiatrist... even though it might seem a little dorky, it does help, believe me. My sister is one and she always makes me feel SO much better.

Hope this helps!

-Calax

Answer 4

It's called attatchment. Even if we spend time with someone we hate, if we spend enough time with them, we will get attatched to them. It's an automatic human reaction. This is why breaking up is NEVER easy, even in the case of abusive relationships.
This can be good news though. If we accept this we will choose our next relationship more carefully, because we know there will be a cost.

Answer 5

You don't hate him because part of you remembers all the times he made you happy. Don't take him back though. Aas much as this guy made you happy there will one day be a be a guy out there that will make you even happier.

Answer 6

Your just like me. Me and my ex broke up about 7 1/2 months ago, and he thinks sorry will get him to use me to make out and stuff, but although he was my 1st boyfriend, I think it's just love that attracts it. I know I do NOT wanna go out with him, but since he was my 1st, I'd do anything to be with/near him. I hope I helped.

Answer 7

see because he hurt you you will constantly think about him more trust me i should no its not that you want him back its that fact that he hurt you and you just cant live with that because you wanted your relationship to go good and no hurt involved because when all of this was happening all you thought about was him so its gunna b kinda hard ta 4get bout da guy dat made u think bout him 4 a year isn't it?

Answer 8

it's normal to still feel love for your ex. but if you really don't want to be with him you need to tell him or he might get the wrong idea.

Answer 9

sometimes, no matter what a person has done to you, you still hold love them. its just one of those things that takes time to go away, if it ever does.

Answer 10

you ll be suprised, but its exactly because he did all that to you.