Why is it when your parents remarry...they seem to marry a person you really hate?
They come into your life and try to take over it!!
Can someone please explain??
2007-07-16 08:19:59 · 12 answers · asked by candiefloss_2000za 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You just described my new step mom, what a witch!
2007-07-16 08:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have been a stepmom for 18 years. I have a very close relationship with my stepkids. I never tried to take over their lives. I did have rules in my house. They had to abide by the same rules as their brothers. I was never rougher on them than on my kids. My steps call me regularly just to talk. When they call my hubby, they want something. There is also a close relationship between my kids and their half siblings. We all enjoy the time we spend together. I really don't know why some people are not nice to other people's children or why they treat their own differently. When people marry, they are to unite a family...not tear it apart. The child does need to understand, though, that the parent isn't marrying just to make the kid mad. Parents are allowed to find love, too.
2007-07-16 12:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a step-mom myself, you need to try to make an effort. It has to come from both sides. Kids naturally want their real parents to be together and when one parent remarries it means that there is no hope of them getting back together and they resent their step-parent, even though they are good people. Give them a chance. My step-kids and I don't always see eye-to-eye, but we do love each other. We have had our moments of wanting to tear our hair out, but we all get along great now. My husband was also a single parent for 9 years after their mom passed away, so they were used to having them to themselves. BTW, gtalvit has it wrong. Step-parents ARE NOT a guest in YOUR house. It is THEIR house too. It is shared. They are the ones along with your parent that is paying the bills. Since it is also THEIR house they DO have the right to enforce their household rules no matter what.
2007-07-16 08:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know. My mom remarried when I was 11. This guy hated me! He made my life so miserable! Oddly, now that I am married and moved out, him and I get along fine. Try talking to your step-parent about it. Maybe they are just trying to be a good parent to you, but don't realize they are making you miserable. I do feel your pain though!
2007-07-16 08:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by Candy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your" step- parent "shouldn't treat you like they're your parent. They are only there for your other parent and to be a positive influence to you. They are guests in your home. They shouldn't be disciplining you, or making parental choices where your concerned, that is your parents job, whether there together, apart or deceased. The one thing all of them should have in common is that your shown respect. On the other hand as guests in your home, and new loves of your parent, you should show respect towards them as well. It is a life adjustment for all of you. It can't be easy to all of a sudden be a step-parent of someone elses kid. Work it out, don;t make your parent choose between you, that is cruel.
2007-07-16 09:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by kramer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your parents love their new spouse, they might not be seeing that it's hard for you. Often times, the new spouse just doesn't know what to do. Maybe you should talk to both your parent and your step-parent, each alone and tell them how you feel. Communication is the only way it will work out.
2007-07-16 08:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mother remarried and my step dad is better to me than my real father. He has been in the family since I was two, and never treated me poorly.
2007-07-16 08:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have recently made a support group for this
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/NarcissisticStepParents
My fathers wife is am awful person. I am older so I don't have to deal with it, but my poor brother gets treated like a slave. My Dad will start the Divorce process but then will stop saying they have reconnected. You can't always help who you fall in love with. Unfortunately Love is blind.
2007-07-16 09:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by Christina L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you just dont like the fact of your parents being with someone new. that was how i say it when my father remarried. I was so use to seeing him by himself that when he took a partner, it was wierd.
2007-07-16 08:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by Random Black Woman 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anyone that has this problem. Everyone I know who has step-parents is really very happy with them.
Sounds like you have some issues with the divorce...
2007-07-16 08:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i had the same prob. with my stepmonster oops mother
they are over eager to enforce teir parent role so they try 2 hard
its a matter of time now i only want to strangle mine 1/2 of the time lol !!
2007-07-16 08:26:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋