how do i word on a wedding invitation im making myself to bring their own liquor we can not afford it?

Answer 1

If you cannot afford the liqueur then don't have any. Don't ask your guests to bring their own. That's tacky

Answer 2

You can note:

Carry In Liquor is acceptable

Do a search: wedding etiquette. Also go to: theknot.com. Ask a question if this is wedding etiquette. I do not really know, as it is the first time I heard of bringing your own liquor.

But actually, people expect some kind of alcohol at a wedding. I would buy discounted wine and beer. Then have a cash bar which guest will pay for their own hard liquor drinks. Skimp on something else. Ask your parents if they would pay for the wine and beer.

Answer 3

Remember, "IT'S YOUR WEDDING". Even though we give you advice, do what YOU feel you need to do. These are only suggestions. You won't hurt my feelings if my ideas aren't right for you })i({

You don't need to explain to _anyone_ why you are not having a certain item at your wedding. You don't even need to _mention_ that there will not be alcohol.

If you do want a BYOB mention, just type "BYOB welcome" a bunch of times on paper coordinating with your wedding colors and cut into strips, then insert these into the envelopes with the invitation. Or, as someone mentioned, just have some friends and family members pass the word around and ask them to spread the message.

Just remember, hiring security is usually required if alcohol even just _might_ show up, not only if the hosts are providing it. If you tell the hall owners "No we're not serving alcohol" and you don't hire security, and then people bring alcohol, and a fight breaks out, then you might be held in breach-of-contract and sued for additional money, not just made to pay for damages.

My cousins had alcohol at their receptions because their receptions were held at halls instead of their churches. I had punch at our reception because our church did not allow alcohol. Some churches do allow alcohol, others do not. Our wedding reception was enjoyable even though the drinkers in the family had no beer.

Ignore the *friends* who say "If you can't afford to give us a good time, then you shouldn't be getting married". That's not what the reception is for. It's to celebrate the step you have taken in your life.

Some of my family insisted the only proper way was to have a big catered meal. Others wanted me to have special foods for their diets. It seemed that for every person invited, there was a different request. This input is fine if they are helping to pay for it. Some cultures do that - instead of a household gift, many people help pay for portions of the wedding, reception or honeymoon even if they only give $25-$50.

I decided I wanted to be able to enjoy my day, so I had the big georgeous cake and the fountain with punch in it and didn't worry any more about it!

An over-the-top wedding does not show "how much you love your family". How much your family loves you is shown through their celebrating with you even if it's just hamburgers on paper-plates and Wal-Mart cola in the cans with everyone in blue jeans and t-shirts out in someone's backyard. Actually, this sounds like a great party!

You don't have to throw an over-the-top party to show others you can afford to get married. Going into debt to have a wedding is a bad way to start your new life. If you have people that won't attend because of no alcohol (or fill-in-the-blank), then they're not there in your honor. Sorry this was so long, wordy, and opinionated, but I hope it helps you or someone else.

Have a Great Time and Enjoy Your Wedding!
Congratulations!!!!

Answer 4

I would not.

First, I personally don't think you are obligated to offer alcoholic refreshment.

However, BYOB for a wedding is tacky. Instead, look into having a cash bar. It just means that the bar is there and available, but the cost is on the guest, not on you.

BTW, a lot of reception sites will offer an incentive to use a cash bar (they tend to make more that way) -- a lot of the time, certain set fees may be waived if you have a cash bar. I am currently planning a class reunion, and at the country club where we're having it, we don't have to pay for the room space if we decided to do a cash bar, as opposed to an open bar or none at all. That's also the way this club does wedding receptions. The thinking behind that is that you pay a certain set amount for an open bar, and they make less per-drink than they would if each drink were paid for individually.

A compromise to the cash bar/open bar debate is to have an open bar for cocktails, or for a short time, like while the guests are waiting for the wedding party to arrive at the reception site, then switch to a cash bar at a designated time.

Or you could have beer and wine as an open bar, but mixed drinks aren't included or are cash bar only.

But please, do everything you can to keep from having a BYOB Wedding. It's not always well-received for events like backyard barbeques. It's totally inappropriate for a wedding.

Regardless of what you decide, I don't think you should include what you are having to eat or drink on the invitation at all. If you have RSVP cards, or especially if people are to send in their preference for one of two or three dinner options (beef, chicken, salmon, etc.), a small notation at the bottom that just says "Cash Bar" may be acceptable there. If you go for the free cocktails/cash bar thing, simply say something like "Cash Bar after 7:00 PM". That would be the ONLY thing that would be acceptable. On the invitation, no.

You don't have to put anything. If people raise a stink about you having a cash bar or no alcohol at all, they should remember that they came to celebrate your marriage, not to get liquored up.

Answer 5

I say do what you can afford to do!, If you can't afford to pay for every ones drinks don't feel bad when my wife and I married we couldn't afford it, so we told everyone in advanced that we were going to supply our toast drink and the reception punch. We also stated that we didn't mind if they drank that the place where we were holding the reception allowed it. We only had to tell a few people and the word go around on it's own. And who ever didn't hear about it well they were fine too, some of the others that had extra shared. I think you should do anything that you feel content with. All that matters is that you are happy on that day, and there are other things about that special day that you should direct your attention to not if your guest have that ability to get trashed on your wedding day. I wish you good luck and a long and happy marriage.

Answer 6

You have got to be kidding me. BYOB? at a wedding? No way is that right. This isn't a potluck barbeque it's a wedding. Either supply the guests with proper beverages or do not serve alcohol. A way to make it cheaper is to go with wine and beer only. Maybe a punch too. Or just cut it out altogether. But whatever you do, under no circumstances should you ask guests to supply their own liquor. Do they have to bring their own dinner too?

Answer 7

Please realize that a wedding is supposed to be one of those once in a lifetime, special, honored events.

To this one does not BYOB. It is not a BBQ in the back yard.

Offer punch, beer, light fruity/fizzy wines if you can't afford the hard stuff, and just state "light alcoholic beveragaes will be served, no liquour".

Just do not ask wedding guests to provide their own booze, it just won't wash, it's just not approprate for a wedding.

Answer 8

I´ve never heard of anyone doing this-we couldn´t afford alcohol at our reception, so we didn´t have any period! I have heard of people asking for a pot luck food dish, but never any alcohol.

Maybe it would be OK to say this-

In lieu of gifts, the bride and groom ask that you bring a bottle of your favorite liquor to share with them and others after the wedding.

Answer 9

You shouldn't allow people to bring their own liquor. Either have a reception with no alcohol, or a cash bar.

It's would be easier (and less tacky) to do a reception with no alcohol than to opt for a cash bar. Also, cash bars require a bartender, which you will probably have to pay an extra fee for. Remember, that you can all go out and drink after the official festivities are over.

Answer 10

You don't. That is not appropriate. Simply, don't have it at your reception. Have it at a casual party you have later in the day for anyone who wants to come or selected guests (be careful doing this or you may offend someone). OR, if you are having it at home or some other casual location, have your close relatives, groomsmen and maids let everyone know they may BYOB if they like, however, don't say it is because you can't afford it. If anyone asks, just say that's the way you decided to handle how the alcohol is served.

Answer 11

Tacky Tacky

Say nothing about liquor. Nothing at all. People will get the idea that this is an alcohol free party when they get there.

Not only that - but who says people have to drink to have a great time. What an immature way to start a life together.