Is it too young for a 19 year old boy to get married?

Question

Should the 19 year old boy wait 2 more years until he is 21, and THEN get married?

Also, isn't 21 a better age (than 19), and it is the norm, right?

Answer 1

How old is the girl?

You can always have a long engagement.

Get engaged at 19, married at 21. Plenty of time to plan, save up, organize, grow, etc.

Answer 2

It depends. I've met many older couples (the 50th + anniversary type) who got married young and had a wonderful marriage. Is this 19-year old ready for a lifetime commitment? Does he have a stable job and good work ethic so he can support his wife and family? Is he prepared to give up time with his buddies to spend time with his wife and children? Will he be continuing his education?

Remember, any "norm" is based on occurrances below and above that number. I don't know if 21 is the norm, but if it is, that means others are getting married at 19, 20, 22, and 23, etc.

I personally haven't met many 19 year old boys who are ready for marriage, but a few do come to mind.

Answer 3

I truly believe it depends on the maturity of the guy. Hell, a 25 yr old could get married and it only lasts a year, i know 19 yr old that got married and they are going on 5 yrs now. A lot of ppl say go and finish school, but that is not for everybody either.. I mean, money is not the source of all happiness, he can go get a job as an apprenticing electrician and be happy doing that. Situation is everything, yes 19yr olds have a much higher chance of getting divorced in life, and ppl say it is due to how much you change, but i don't believe that either. I think they need to have a proper view on WHAT marriage is first, knowing that it is not all fairy tales and happiness, they will have tough times, they WILL argue, guaranteed, but they need to learn to work these out and talk, and communicate. If the couple understands these matters, then they will also learn to adjust w each other through those years that they change. Even getting married at 25, married at 30, or 50, ppl change and their mates still have to learn how to change w them. So yeah, 19 is a big leap, but if he knows what he is doing, then don't hold him back

Answer 4

You answered your own question with you said 19 year old BOY. I'd say yes, wait a few years, make sure that she's the right one after you two have grown up a bit more. As for 21 being the average, that is not the case. From my experience, the average closer to 25 these days. Also, the older you are when you get married, the more likely it will last.

Answer 5

If you are talking about your friend who is having a wedding at Burger king, then Yes, I think he needs a little Maturity.

I think it is a good idea to wait a few years before getting married. They should each be out of high school for a couple of years and preferably have lived on their own for a year or so minimum.

Edit**

My Grandparents have been married 65 years. My grandpa was 19 and my Grandma was 20.

I guess the key was that they were married at a time when men and women took their marriage vows very seriously and grew up a lot faster. They have always put each other first. I have never heard my grandpa talk about "hanging with the guys". They live for each other and put each others needs first- I think that is the key. You have to be able to give up time with your friends and put your bride first. It is all about her and you. Your friends can wait, but she can't. Once you realize that and can do that, then you are mature enough to get married. I know 30 somethings who aren't that mature- they shouldn't be married but are.

Answer 6

It's more normal to wait until you are 21, but I'd suggest finishing school first & making sure that you are financially stable.

My reasons for this is that financial aid will give you more now while the two of you are single. If you marry, the amount they give you is halved. They assume that if you are marrying, you are financially stable enough to pay your own way. Insurance is also a huge biggie. Right now you may still be eligible to stay under your parents' insurance. If you marry you lose that.

Studies have shown that the longer the engagement time is & the more college you have under your belt, the more likely the marraige is to be successful. If the two of you are in love then waiting to be married shouldn't be a problem, right? Love means being patient. Just live with each other for right now.

Answer 7

I think 19 may be a little young to get married. But then again I am 19 and engaged but we are going to wait another year. I think that if you both have jobs and are either forwarding your education like you want to or have already gotten what you want out of school than there is no since in waiting. My fiancee and I have been together for 3 years and it is so hard to see him leave every night so I know where u are coming from.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

Wow, there are some really negative answers out there. The best I can think of would be: You have to know the people. I was married at 19. But by this time, I had graduated from HS two years early, was in my third year of my baccelaureate, survived cervical cancer and lived on my own for three years. It's different if you're fresh out of high school or just out of your first year of college with no real experience.

Answer 9

I wouldn't say 21 is the norm (most college students are not married), but I would say it's a little closer to the average than 19 is.

When my husband and I married, he was 19. I think he always felt like he wished he were a little older. There was a lot of life he didn't get to experience on his own.

However, we're happily married, so who knows, maybe 19 is okay for some guys.

I think it depends on him.

Answer 10

I got married at 19 and it was a huge mistake, I was divorced by the time I was 22 (my ex cheated on me) I'd say wait til you are at least 25, because you change so much between the ages of 19 and 25.