My oldest daughter, Kaitlyn(5), got in trouble the other day. She began to back talk. So I sent her to time out for 15 minutes. When she came back she was fine. The next day she did it again, so I took away TV privleges. It worked, until she did it again yesterday. So I told her to stay in her room for a little while and take a nap to calm down. So this morning she did it again. I sent her to her room and I told her to stay for an hour. Then she did it again and I sent to back to her room. That's where we stand now. What should I do if she does it again?
2007-07-16 08:01:19 · 13 answers · asked by Kelly 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am a firm believer in "talk it out first, spank it out later"! You've talked and talked and talked, and it's obvious that your child isn't taking you seriously. Desperate times..... you know the rest. One good pat on the but in addition to the punishments you've already tried, and she should get the point... literally!
2007-07-16 08:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by tooblessed2doubt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay clearly your tactics aren't working-- time to take a different approach. Tell her that when she's cheeky/sassy that you will not respond to her. I use a sharp "HEY! You WILL NOT speak to me like that! I am your mother, and it is UNACCEPTABLE. When you speak to me in a respectful tone I will consider what you're saying until then..." And I turn around and do whatever I was doing before. Reading my book, washing dishes, whatever. When I was little my mom would say "How can you speak to your mamma like that? It just breaks my heart!" Her eyes would tear up and I'd feel like a monster run and hug her. Maybe when she sees the effect her tone of voice, and word choice have on you (ie sweet and pleasant, gets what she wants, sassy gives her nothing) she'll change her ways. My grandmother took a more direct and to the point approach. "DON'T You speak to me that way-- get me the soap!" I few dabs of soap on the tongue and I quit the back talk right quick at gran's house! GOOD LUCK, be consistent!
2007-07-16 15:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by mrs.v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you explaining why she is being punished? You need to make her punishmeht something that is not so easilly shaken off. Take away the toys and her favorite tv shows if she does it again. My mother would have just smacked me good in the mouth and I would never back talk to her again. Oh wait that is what did happen and I do not talk back to my mother to this very day. That could be an option for you, should you want to take it.
2007-07-16 15:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her that's talking back to her parents is wrong and that she's not suppose to do it. She knows that if she does it all shes going to get is something taking away and then giving right back to her, or time out. As a parent you need to figure out the best way to handle your child for punishment because all kids are different but sometimes a little pop or a spank never hurt!
2007-07-16 15:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Di 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her that talking back in unacceptable?
Time out should be 5 minutes. They go by age, like if she was 1o it would be 1o minutes. Keep giving her time out, and keep taking away things.
Does she usually like to sit in her room? Does she have games and toys in it? Then its not really a punishment. Get a time out chair and put it in the corner where you can watch her. Good lucK!
2007-07-16 15:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be consistent don't let her get away with it. What does she love to do or play with take it from her and make sure you reward her for being good as well. I have 3 kids and being consistent is the best way. I always hear your kids are so good how do you do it. I am a stay at home mom with my own homebased business and most of all your kids need you.
2007-07-20 14:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by Tracybeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me it is becoming a habit and she knows what she is doing. You are just repeating the cycle and she knows you are just continuing to do that. Excuse what i say but she knows by now more then likely that is all is going to happen to her. If she does it again i would say a little bit tougher measures is what it will call for.
2007-07-16 15:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep at it ! Keep taking away her tv, toys, and sending her to her room!
Don't show that her talking to you like that is bothering you. Be firm, tell her not to talk back and then take away soemthing.She will get it soon enough that talking back is not going to get her anywhere.
2007-07-16 15:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by Candiegirl17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm dont put her in her room there is to many fun things in there put here on the stairs or corner for like an hour make her face a wall it works cause she will get bored
2007-07-16 15:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Role-play with her. Go over appropriate responses, teach her how to resolve conflict - even if the resolution is that she's in trouble.
2007-07-16 15:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by lillilou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋