I dumped my ex about a year or more ago, and since then he's been trying in many ways to get back with me. Lately I called him up to have a (ahem) casual affair with him (if you know what I mean). I was bored, so what the hey. Now that I'm "with" him again, I'm starting to feel really possessive even though we're not in a relationship anymore, and all I can think about is him and if he has any feelings for me. I have no idea and it would be lame to ask him, seeing as I was the one who dumped him. I am so confused...
2007-07-16 08:00:39 · 13 answers · asked by Karen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is the old saying, "we always want what we can't have". It appears you were sure of his love for you and so you played with his emotions. You thought by getting together with him and having a little fun on the side was gonna make him continue to beg you to come back to him. When you found he did not do this, instead he has agreed to the casual sexual encounter. This has made you question his love for you. Stop the games, if you love him then let him know. If you continue with the games pretty soon he will get tired and you will really lose him. Hoping it all works out for the best for you.
2007-07-16 08:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dumped him, why? what was there that made yo feel you needed out of the relationship? Then after you answer those questions. You began to have feeling once you started to have your little affair with him. That was wrong if you knew he still had feelings for you. You were leading him on. The reason is because there is something about him you do love. He may be good to you and treat you good. I hope that is the reason you are thinking of getting back with him. Make sure it is not just about the sex. If that's the reason you all will break up again. If you trust him and are good to him and he you, then go ahead and get back together. You can say the reason you broke up with him the 1st time was that you didn't feel like you were ready for a relationship. Make sure this time you are ready for him and who he is. You can tell him that you still have strong feelings for him and would like to try again. Just remember if you break his heart this time he will want nothing to do with you again, if he is smart. So make sure you care about him and he you. And don't let little arguments break you all up. Talk about them like adults, do not argue, or fight. If you will just talk about them they will get resolved and you will be able to make it work this time.
2007-07-16 08:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there Karen. You are not by any means the first person to go through this. Maybe you two should try a commited relationship again. But this time get some help understanding what you are feeling. I would try a nice bookstore for information on relationships. It often times is the busiest area in the bookstore.
2007-07-16 08:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Gary B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one million. Your Moon is in Aquarius -- notoriously prevalent for detachment. 2. you are going to be depressed or uneasy. 3. this is unusual you're no longer jealous because of the fact your solar sign & venus are very very jealous signs and indicators yet I recommend you communicate on your boyfriend because of the fact which you the two might desire to return to words with what it precisely skill to be "in a courting". Flirting with human beings is cheating in a feeling -- so I recommend you men artwork that out. 4. You stated how a lot you enjoyed your Ex. and additionally you don't get comparable thoughts, which could additionally be it. perchance you men are incompatible and additionally you may desire to reevaluate your modern courting, perchance destroy issues off and notice how issues bypass inclusive of your Ex. definitely, you may want to be satisfied and additionally you are going to be. do merely what you think of is physically powerful and permit your coronary heart stick to.
2016-10-03 22:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are wanting something (someone) you cant have--and now he is playing you along--he might be enjoying this game now. Do you enjoy being in "an affair" with him now? You can talk to him about this, but I bet if he really has feelings for you, you would know. Move on.
2007-07-16 08:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by skyward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your head on straight!
Do you want a devoted relationship or not? Talk it over with your lover-exlover-lover and start anew. You are confused because you will not be honest with yourself or your man.
2007-07-16 08:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-03 13:41:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like...you wanted a casual affair...but your jealous...you dumped him...yet your possessive....sorry but it sounds like their is some head games goin on...cant have it both ways....gl
2007-07-16 08:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him. the worst he can say is no he doesnt. then move on maybe the first time yall tried it just wasnt the right time for it in your lives. you wont know till you ask. maybe you just want him to want you. or you just dont want anyone else to have him. ask before you get defensive
2007-07-16 08:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by lil_red1107 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you still love the guy to me you should tell him that you still have feelings for this guy.
2007-07-16 08:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by royg5508 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋