What would you do if you were a woman who weighed 250 pounds, hated your job, were all alone with no friends, no nobody? No man wants to be in any kind of relationship with you, but at the same time you are very intelligent and have a lot to offer?
2007-07-16 07:32:31 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get out of your house and go find a guy... Why does no guy want a relationship with you? You do not have to be with a guy to make your life not suck.
2007-07-16 07:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take a good hard look at my situation and ask myself "What do I need to do to make my life better? What will make me happy?" You mentioned your weight. If you are not happy with it, do something about it. Get a treadmill or an eliptical and work out on it in your home if you're shy. Start out at 5 minutes on the easy setting and believe me in time, you will be doing 45 minutes on a more difficult setting without breaking a sweat! It will take time though. Remember this!!! Eat healthier to. That helps the mind and the body. Job issue: get another one if it's that bad. No work environment is going to be perfect though, so keep that in mind. You will always have an issue here and there wherever you go. But if it is truly that bad, get out. Friends: do you attend church? That's a place to meet some good people. Maybe a gym. You would meet other people there and who knows, maybe form friendships along the way! Man: let time work that out. All you can do is live and enjoy who you are. That will be the best time for a relationship. You'll be secure in who you are. You need to be the person you want to be before a relationship can take place.
2007-07-16 07:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop being a drama queen. No one gets anything for free (Except Paris Hilton). You need to take your life in your own hands and stop expecting things to get sorted out on their own. You're not gonna wake up thin one day, have the doorbell ring with a very handsome guy who was just there to offer you the job you always wanted and ended up asking you out on a date. News flash: No man cares to date a woman with such a low self esteem unless he plans to use that self esteem to use her, manipulate her, and you don't want that kind of guy either.
Suggestion: Maybe counseling would help. But what you can do for yourself is look at yourself in the mirror and try to find the good things in you. If you are so intelligent as you claim, then maybe it wouldn't be so hard to find another job for starters. If you have a lot to offer, then start offering to yourself, it really sounds like you need some loving soon, and no one will provide better love than yourself.
You are a magnet, if you have a negative attitude, you will attract negative towards you. The same with good things, once you start going to the gym and offering your body some health, and looking for a new job and offering yourself a better oportunity, good things will start comming your way.
If you have a hard time doing this, then I do strongly suggest counseling, I know it sounds yucky and a bit drastic, but it's worked wonders for me.
Good luck, and remember, you are beautiful, doesn't matter if you don't fit in the stupid standards society is drilling on our minds, you are gorgeous in your own and unique way. Exploit your traits, for I am sure you have many.
2007-07-16 07:42:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stop hanging out here on Y!A, visit my doctor to discuss these feelings, start a healthy diet and exercise regimen with a professional monitoring my progress, and then I would go out and join some clubs I was interested in or would do some volunteer work. The first set of answers will help with the 250 pounds (and probably your depression). The second set of answers will help with the friends. The job, hopefully, will work itself out better when your outlook on life has changed. That starts with your health and by getting involved in your community. Good luck!
2007-07-16 07:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not to be offensive....... but Id hit the gym, work out all my aggravations.. lose weight at the same time, focus on all the small, simple things in life that make me happy..... start looking for a better job.... get out in the world and find new hobbies where I can make new friends.... and most of all I'd smile and remember I'm alive and I have all 10 fingers, all 10 toes, everything functions, nothing is deformed or dysfunctional on me and because of that I can take full advantage of life and everything it has to offer........
There's so much you can do at this point.... you've hit rock bottom..... the only way is UP.
2007-07-16 07:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by Katia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH NO....turn your life to Faith honey. Only God will lead you happiness. You have to love yourself before anyone else can love you back. So what if you weigh 250, you are still beautiful!! If it bothers you, then working out is a GREAT endorphin(SP) builder! If you hate your job..then start looking...you can do anything in the world you want to !!
"What if happiness didn't have anything to do with what you had, where you've been, or who you were, and arose entirely from what you chose to think about, yet nobody knew this?
And that changing your thoughts, so that you could feel happier more often, would entirely change what you had, who you were, and where you're headed, yet nobody knew this either?
Do you think if we told them they'd choose to think differently? "
2007-07-16 07:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by blpc 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For starters you begin to think differently. Did you know that you're so much better than you just described to me. Stop focusing on the bad things in your life and Begin to focus on the good. You're intelligent and have a lot to offer, right? I've helped coach many women just like yourself over this rut and into a flourishing life with more opportunities for you. I hope this will help you.
David Sexton., PhD Human relationships/Author
2007-07-16 08:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Captain Obvious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on the positive,you say your smart,start using that,and what do you have 2 offer?Friends are everywhere,you just have 2 open your eyes,they are not just for you 2 unload on but 2 share good things with 2,some people have 2 learn 2 be a good friend,and that takes effort,like any relationship,good comes with the bad,and not always at the right time,feel free 2 email me,I have a very busy life,sometimes 2 busy but I always find time 2 chat with friends via email,phone or letters,it easy 2 make friends,just takes a little time and effort 2 keep!:)
2007-07-16 07:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by simplyred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, that sounds sad. I would try to lose some weight because it's a matter of health. I would prob try to find a better job because it is hard to work if you don't enjoy it. I will try to make more friends through family members or just going out. A man will accept you for who you are. There is a significant other for everyone. Good luck!!
2007-07-16 07:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would work on bettering yourself before thinking about me. I heard a quote once on a public service announcement once that said that there's 1 soulmate out there for everyone, which is yourself. if you don't love yourself then it will be hard for others to.
cutting down on 500 calories a day, you will lose a pound a week. Join a gym, or go walking in the park atleast 3 days a week. Power walk. Up your distance every week.
2007-07-16 07:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going to start my answer in the order you asked...
1. i would loose weight. that will help you on soooo many levels.
2. find a new job, and possibly meet new friends there. get a job dealing with people, even if its not forever.
3. you are very intelligent, these things should not be hard to do.
4. good luck
2007-07-16 07:36:43 · answer #11 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋