okay...so i'm 16 and i like a guy that's 20 and another guy that's 23 they're both cute but i'm not siure who likes me more...all i know is that they both like me but i don't know who likes me more....how can i choose who and....isn't that wrong?????????help me please give me ur advice
2007-07-16 07:04:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can understand why you "like a guy" who is 20, especially when you're 16. The problem with either situation is that they are adults and you, regardless of how you feel, are not. The 23 year old faces prison time if he is "with you" and the 20 year old could also be charged if you're below the age of consent in your area. Why risk something that you know will happen? They are adult males and you are a young woman who is suddenly "available". You may see "love" in your heart, but regardless of the love in theirs, there is also a great deal of lust and it "will" come up. Once it does, crimes have been committed and things will get real bad for the guys you supposedly "love". Not good...not for you, and especially not for them.
I'm not saying the system is right, or good, or practical, but the reality is that until you're at least 18, you need to look for "boys" your own age. You'll have the rest of your life to go out with men as old as you like...in about two years. Take your time, enjoy the last couple of years of your childhood before you toss them aside. Trust me, you'll be happy you waited if you do.
2007-07-23 22:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a 23 yr old is too old for u, 20 is pushin it but it's better than 23, i know there is not that much difference, but your 16. that 23 yr old needs to grow up and quit tryin to rob the cradle. when i was 15, i was seeing a 25 yr old, my parents put him in jail. 7 yrs difference isn't a big thing when you older like 22 or so. and just to let you know they'r both after the same thing. do u want to get used? find someone more your age.
2007-07-24 02:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by smash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BACK UP THE TRUCK!!!!
You're 16...a minor...they're both legal age.
You're looking at what is referred to as statutory rape (if you're sexually involved) for these 2 guys.
Be advised, any 20 or 23 y/old males who want a relationship with a 16 y/old girl are only out for one thing....and you both will be heading for trouble!
Run, run, run away and find someone your own age. These guys are NOT nice guys, and are only looking to add you to their list of conquests. They are predators of the worst kind. BEWARE!!!!!!!
Good Luck!
2007-07-24 05:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by Barbi T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like many others have said these guys are too old for you most likely the only thing they want is to take you to bed one or two times and then their gone. You really need to be careful, if any of these two are seriously interested in you as a person have them meet your parents and ask permission to see you, maybe if your folks get a good vibe they will allow him to come see you at your house and TALK get to know each other. Seriously be careful they are too old! Don't sleep with either!!!!!!
2007-07-24 02:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by ymata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a situation, dont choose, damn thats even wrong,give it time and things will reveal themselves with time,in the mean time try not think about it too much, although thats lame, i know u cant stop thinking about it, so just give it time, the other side, (devillish side), choose one if tha one flops, u can always go back to the other one, although i would not advice that u do that, as that would be messing with someones feelings and that would be wrong, so give it time gal.But then again u might know deep down who u like more, so go with that.
2007-07-23 21:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'M SORRY BUT 20 YEAR OLDS ARE TOO OLD FOR YOU!
you should be worried about school, sports, activities that enrich you as a person. Young men will just rob you of your innocence!
2007-07-24 07:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Leggs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the guy who is 20 has an ideal difference of age.. 23 is almost 7yrs of age gap and i think thats too much... you will remain a kid while his thoughts become old...so if you cant decide i feel you could think about their ages :)
2007-07-23 20:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by sanju 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and should not restrict yourself to one boyfriend.
Have your fun but be careful. A sexual relation could land one of those young men in trouble if things go bad. You might also become pregnant.
You do not want children this early. So, pay attention to things.
2007-07-24 07:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by Starte Christ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait til you're 18 to start dating guys older than you by more than 2 years. it's a slippery slope to the courthouse at this point.
2007-07-24 06:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by Victoria J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are way too old for you. Does your parents know how old they are? They are only after one thing. Tell both them pervs to take a hike! That is statutory rape.
2007-07-23 18:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by Irene 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋