Would $50 be too cheap? I personally don't even know the person and I am just going as my boyfriend's guest.
2007-07-16 06:43:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Wow, I never knew you provided money to cover your dinner. That seems a little absurd. My bf and I are on a tight budget seeing that this wedding is falling right before both our next pay periods.
2007-07-16 06:56:10 · update #1
The invitation stated they wanted monetary gifts vs. actual presents. The $50 would be from both my boyfriend and I, not just me. Seeing some of these answers, I think maybe we should up the amount. I wasn't sure what would be considered cheap.
2007-07-16 11:23:08 · update #2
Me personally, would've prefered to actually buy a present versus giving away money.
2007-07-16 11:24:03 · update #3
I think $50 dollars is just fine. But maybe give it them in the form a gift card to one of the places that they registared at. Chances are they won't get everything they registared for and getting a card to that place would allow them to get what they need. Cash on the other hand might just be used for whatever(things they may not need).
2007-07-16 07:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by L♥G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend should give the gift, you can to help out your boyfriend chip in.
In some circumstances $50 is very generous, in other it is not.
Some people use the cost per plate as how much they should give. This is only true if that is the type of wedding you would have or would consider paying if you went out (For example New Year's party). A $500 per plate dinner is above what most could afford, so you would not give that amount, but if for a nice dinner and dancing you would give $75, that is what you should give for this wedding.
Many people disagree with this, but I feel if it is within your means to try to cover the cost of the event.
2007-07-16 14:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by no_frills 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your boyfriend if he is already giving a gift to cover you. Usually you give gifts as a couple, and the person invited takes care of it so their guest can just be their guest. Based on what we got from our wedding, the standard is $100. But give what you can afford. Some people gave us less, and we didn't care - we were just happy they could share our day. If they are your friends (or at least his friend), they will understand.
Also, according to etiquette, you have up to a year to give a gift, so you can always save up and send a gift later.
2007-07-16 15:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by not margaret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not listen to the "cover the cost of your meal" people - if you wanted to worry about paying for dinner, you'd go to a restaurant, right?! Instead, you're attending a celebration as a GUEST of the bride and groom, which means that paying for your meal shouldn't be a worry.
Okay, off my passive-aggressive soapbox now.
To give $50 as a gift to a couple you don't even know is extremely kind of you!!
There's no "right" amount of money to give. Gifts are meant to be given from the heart. If you're comfortable with it, and can afford to give the money, then go for it. And kudos to you for being so thoughtful!
2007-07-16 13:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by sylvia 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Interesting... At our wedding, it will be split. Vietnamese people tend to offer a minimum of $50 a guest. Yet, I think $50 is fine for the both of you because that would have been the amount for one of their gifts on a registry. Yeah, $50 is plenty.. I've never heard of anyone putting that they wanted monetary gifts on their invitations....
2007-07-16 20:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ruby P 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
$50 is very generous...especially if you don't even know them. If the invite was addressed "Joe and guest" you are not neccesarily expected to give one at all.
The supposed rule about "covering your plate" is comeplete BS and was never part of ettiquete. You give what you are comfortable giving and what you can afford. Don't break your bank, it makes no sense to be stuck eating ramean noodles for a month because you had to try and guess the price of the meal at one wedding. If the couple can't afford their reception, they shouldnt' have thrown it that way....it doesn't fall on you or your boyfriends shoulders to make up the slack.
2007-07-16 13:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A gift is a gift. THey should receive it and be grateful for whatever you have chosen to give them. Even if it is a stuffed turtle. The point is that you chose it, purchased it, and gave it to them.
With that being said, I think it depends on your boyfriend's job, and, the other guy's job, where you live, how long they have been friends, etc. Obviously, if, for example, his whole family is low-income, you wouldn't want to give more than his parents or whatever. I think that $50 is a good amount, atleast where i live- and with MY friends. LOL
2007-07-16 13:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda h 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a wedding fit should never leave the giver broke and bitter. i think $50 for a person you do not even know is great. people often PREACH covering your plate, but i never understood that way of thinking. it's not like they are trying to break even at a wedding, it is a party and you are giving a gift.
do not worry about the amount, if you give from the heart, that is all that matters.
2007-07-16 15:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by Christina V 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All gifts should be given from the heart - whether money or object.
Give what you feel is appropriate and especially - what fits your budget.
2007-07-16 13:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends where you live honestly. In NY and most of that area, $100 is kind of the minimum to give from a couple. And if it is a good friend, then more is appropriate.
2007-07-16 17:16:23 · answer #10 · answered by Margaret 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋