My son is much better off with me, his mother doesn't work, has 3 other kids all by different men, lives off of food stamps. She does have a live in boyfriend, which my finacee and I also live together. In her care my 5 year old son has missed 11 days of school his first year in kindergarden, which he did pass. I am always the one to take him to the DR. as she will not ever take him. She has let her boyfriend spank my son to the point that welts were left on his legs from a belt for a few days. I did call Social Services, and they just don't give a crap, they check out there home and later dropped the case. Also she lets my son watch really bad movies, like pg-13, and he is only 5. I guess my question is, should I just get over it, and have to learn to deal with the way it is, I mean I see my son 50% of the time, but at this point I feel he needs more stability, instead of back and fourth, we live 25 miles apart. Or should I fight for full custody??
2007-07-16 05:46:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yeah I would fight for full custody. I read your other question regarding the spanking. First I want to tell you I would never use a belt on a child, even tho I am for spanking and discipline. Spanking when used in the correct manner can and does work. That however is an issue for another time.
I would like to believe that the state/city where you live is more intelligent than what you have painted in your post. Here is a women who has had 4 children and not a single one of them have had the same father. She is just reproducing and doesn't care about the children she bares from what you say.
I will caution you. As I found out, fathers rights are just becoming the norm in some places. You may be in for a long and arduous battle. I recommend getting an attorney schooled in family law. You can hire one through your cities Legal Aid society. I know that sounds odd but I found many a good attorney to represent me in legal matters from the society.
There is one last thing I would like to mention here. Your son needs to be in a youth organization that can help him grow. Having been associated with this organization for more than 30 years, I can tell you we can help him. We can help him get by the confusion in his life, the lonliness. I am talking about the Boy Scouts of America. Try it you will be surprised at how much the BSA can help.
2007-07-16 06:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by mikeae 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you truly feel that he will be better off in your home, then heck yes fight for him!
Unfortunately, most states have a heavy leaning towards the mother in custody cases. There has to be something MAJOR going on as in abuse or neglect so the courts will give a child to the father full time. I'd say get a lawyer and fight for what you think is best. Maybe use the boyfriend spanking your son as grounds to file custody papers.
Also, has your son expressed that he'd rather live with you. That may be a good indicator of what may be going on that you can't see. ask him what he feels about it.
2007-07-16 05:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY. Get yourself a good family lawyer. Your child is suffering abuse and neglect there. Start collecting evidence on the case, keep a journal, make sure you take pictures if he comes over with any bruises, welts or anything else. In fact, bring him to a doctor to have it medically documented. Call Child Protective and talk to them about the situation and what needs to be done. It is only going to get worse for your child if you let him stay there.
2007-07-16 05:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you definitely experience your son isn't getting the care that he might desire to be then you definately've an criminal accountability to manage that. i might think of which you would be able to honestly try for finished custody or consistent with hazard you are able to artwork something out with the mummy so as that no person must be dragged by courtroom. If social centers has dropped the case then maximum possibly there is not any genuine overlook or possibility on your son yet perchance you are able to furnish extra. be careful to no longer placed your son interior the area of having to confirm on a discern and verify out to do each little thing as civil as attainable so your son won't go through. stable success to you all.
2016-10-03 22:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by rouse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to document everything and, if possible, have witnesses. As for the welts; the next time you pick him up and he has welts, take him to the hospital and have the staff there document the injuries. Be sure they understand the situation as they may well call the cops and you don't want to be the one being investigated for abuse.
The judge will likely be sympathetic but you need more than "he said, she said" to convince him.
2007-07-16 06:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fight for full custody. my boyfriend and i are in a very similar situation, and we're fighting. ur right, ur son needs stability, and it sounds like he's not in a safe environment when he's with his mother. if he gets welts or anything like that from them spanking him again, take pictures. hard evidence is always better then here-say. any hard evidence or hard facts u can get, the better chance u'll win. good luck.
2007-07-16 05:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kristabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I vote get a family law attorney, marry your fiance, go for full custody.
2007-07-16 05:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are u waiting for
2007-07-16 05:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by kcbeason7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋