A guy ask me to be his life partner. Everything is fine but that's 1 thing that holds me back, that's the Religion issue. Will you convert your religion to his? Cause he wants me to be completely part of his family and not an outcast. Will you?
2007-07-16 05:30:44 · 6 answers · asked by pei_vun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A guy ask me to be his life partner. Everything is fine but that's 1 thing that holds me back, that's the Religion issue. Will you convert your religion to his? Cause he wants me to be completely part of his family and not an outcast. Will you? He's a Muslim and I'm a Christian.
2007-07-16 05:43:57 · update #1
marriage should have nothing to do with it at all. the conversion itself is the question. the question should be...do you want to convert to Islam and become as faithful a Muslim as you are a Christian. remember that to many people (like me) many major religions are just somewhat duplicate and it is the same God that you will be worshiping. (some people think every religion praises different/false gods or that there's only one god and that god belongs exclusively to their religion). since you are dating a Muslim you obviously at least see some parallels in your faiths and can see that you're still faithful to the same God. the only thing you need to think about is do you want to worship God through Jesus' life and death or to Mohammed's life and writings/revelations.
also, do you know if he would ever marry you if you were to not convert? is he saying "i will only marry you if you convert" or is he wanting you to for family reasons. i personally think that there is nothing wrong with at least asking the love of your life to do something like that in order to at least TRY to conform to (his) family pressures.
2007-07-18 23:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by iendandubegin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how big the switch was, and what that would entail.
For example if I was in love with a guy who was a Wiccan, and his parents wouldn't be cool with me if I wasn't Wiccan, I might consider converting if it just meant that I'd show up for a couple holidays, or wear a Wiccan necklace when they were around or something.
I chose Wicca because it's not loaded like the major three religions would be, but you get my point.
If everything else is great but you'd just have to fake it through a few Sundays at church or whatever, I don't see why you can't consider it.
Just as long as it's for your easier inclusion in to his family, not a defining factor in his feelings for you.
2007-07-16 12:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I couldn't read the details but...
My personal beliefs are that religion/beliefs are a personal thing, one of---if not the only personal thing left in this world. My parents were different religions and I got to have a taste of both---and followed my own path.
Live with his lifestyle I say, faith should truly be personal. <-- Woah there, that sounds like I just contradicted myself lol. (I just read the whole thing)
If he won't marry you unless you convert---I say simply don't convert.
2007-07-17 00:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having deal-breaking conflicts before marriage then it can only get worse.
Find someone more compatible, preferrably with a naturalistic worldview. I suggest a Bright who shares your interests, you can find them on match.com
2007-07-18 17:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself: "Will I be happy as a convert?"
2007-07-16 12:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I wouldn't marry him if he asked me to change my religion.
2007-07-16 12:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋