Before i got in the relationship with my boyfriend, i slept with his friend. Now he told me if i dont sleep with him he going to tell my boyfriend. Im scared because i dont want my befriend to find out.
2007-07-16 05:22:52 · 56 answers · asked by Honey b 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it was BEFORE you got into your current relationship, then you have nothing to worry about. Tell the desperate loser to f-off and be honest with your boyfriend :)
2007-07-16 05:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by KingOfTheWorld 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah your best friend is a dirtball. And an idiot for telling you as well. If your sister ever found out she would never trust you ever again for not letting her know. Friends come and go, that is your blood. If someone slept with your boyfriend and your sister knew about it, wouldn't you expect her to tell you? Best friends or not, she obviously doesn't respect your family very much and you have to tell your sister. Just because she wants to sneak around doesn't mean you should have to be dragged into it and become dishonest. Speak up now, the longer you wait the harder it's going to be. I'm telling you, you're doing the right thing by telling your sister. Good Luck.
2016-05-19 01:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off he is not your boyfriends friend or he wouldn't be doing this. I would cut all ties with him altogether and if your boyfriend asks then tell the truth, the whole truth. After all you slept with this guy before your boyfriend so you don't have anything to worry about there. I would tell the freak to leave you alone all together and tell your guy he is trying to have sex with you behind his back, then if the issue of your past comes up then that is when it all needs to come out in the open. Don't deal with this freak or he will cause you trouble.
2007-07-16 05:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell your boyfriend. I'm sorry. Besides, if you slept with this dude BEFORE you got into the relationship with your boyfriend, why would he care? My BF and I have an "ancient history" policy- anyone we hooked up with before we got together is nothing to get jealous over, because it happened in the past before we were together. However, your BF should take issue with the fact that his "friend" is threatening you with blackmail if you don't sleep with him now. This is not your fault- your BF's friend is a very sick individual and you need to tell your BF so he can properly kick the guy's ***. Cheers!
2007-07-16 05:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no.
What is better, that your boyfriend finds out that you slept with another guy before you started dating him (which is perfectly fine)
or that you slept with another guy while you were in the relationship.
If your boyfriends friend is blackmailing you to have sex with him then tell your boyfriend. If he is any kind of a decent boyfriend he will punch the other guy.
*Note it also might be a very sick test that your boyfriend is playing on you to see what you do* Oh and if your boyfriend is still friends with that guy after you tell him then he is not worth having as your boyfriend.
Good luck.
2007-07-16 05:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by soccerpsychic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if that guy really cares about you or even his friend (your boyfriend) he'll leave you alone and put what happened in the past ... in the past :]
You said this guy was our boyfriend's friend and never said if he's yours. I'm guessing your not really friends with him ...
Relationships are about honesty, but that type of business should be told by you, not one of your boyfriend's friends! That guy is just being disrespectful of your relationship and is showing he doesn't give a damn about his friend. If he really cared he wouldn't run his mouth and he would let you be honest with your boyfriend instead of running his raunchy *** mouth.
If you don't want to sleep with your boyfriend's friend then don't. You shouldn't anyway because that would be ... Slutty :]
Some little ***** who's showing his immaturity by threatening to tell something to your boyfriend that happened IN THE PAST BEFORE YOU WERE GOING OUT, is just ******* retarded. It's some baby bullshit and he needs to grow the **** up :]
And, if you decide to tell that guy that you don't want to bang him and he threatens to tell, it's better if you tell your boyfriend first. It'd be worse if he heard it from someone else. And he'd end up finding out you banged his friend sooner or later and it'd be over from there.
Plus, if you tell your boyfriend, you can talk it out and everything. Things will totally work out better if you're the one to tell if it comes to that.
Hell, you should even show that little punk *** ***** these answers you got. I bet he'd feel like an asshole! Then again, I probably wouldn't even do that ... so why am I telling you to?
Seriously, this dude needs to grow up! It's your business with him. No one else should be brought into your business with your boy's friend.
And:
It's your relationship with your boyfriend, so your business with someone else shouldn't be dragged into it.
Just make sure, if the dude threatens to tell if you say you don't want to sleep with him, that you're the one to tell your b/f the news. Remember that!!!!!
And don't be the ho who goes and sleeps with another guy. If you sleep with his friend, his friend will probably black mail you again! And it will go on and on until finally, your boyfriend finds out and it's over and you'll be known as a sleazy ho!
2007-07-16 05:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your bf that you have to tell him something and explain the situation, in my experience guys make a big deal about that BUT if you are in a good realtionship u dont want to start out based on lies. tell him u didnt really know that u would be in a relationship with him at the time u slept with his friend but now that you are theres no way to take it back, let him know that his friend is tryinto have sex again KNOWING that you are now with your bf- thats no friend. Im sure your man will side with you and respect your honesty. Then u can get that other creep out of our life. Good luCk with that one.
2007-07-16 05:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you slept with him before you started dating your current boyfriend it should be fine. Honesty is the most important aspect in a relationship. He needs to know. He's probably slept with people before you. Tell his friend to back off and that he can go ahead and tell his friend because you already told him.
2007-07-16 05:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it'll be more terrible if you sleep with him again! it'll make you look like a w h o r e. and what if you did sleep with him again, can you be sure he'll leave you in peace after? what if he blackmails you again into sleeping with him over and over?!
girl, you need to tell every thing about to your boyfriend. and before doing that you'll need evidence so your boyfriend would believe you.... next time that b a s t a r d friend of his asks you to sleep with him, record the conversation so when you explain things to your man, he'll see what an a s s h o l e he's so called friend is....
goodluck and i hope you do what is right....
2007-07-16 05:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by ♥wildflower♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just come clean with your boyfriend. Your boyfriend's friend is obviously a scumbag to blackmail you like that, so eventually he'll just tell your boyfriend or someone else in your circle of friends. Your boyfriend, should understand that it happened before you got into a relationship with him. If he doesn't, then it is time for you to move on and find someone else. Always come clean from the beginning so crap like that doesn't come back to haunt you later on.
2007-07-16 05:29:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did before you got with your boyfriend should be no issue...tell the guy in no uncertain terms "no", and then tell your boyfriend the truth about what happened and what the guy is currently doing. If he's worth being with, he wont' hold your past against you, and he'll ditch his snake of a friend for trying to blackmail you into having sex with him again.
2007-07-16 05:27:31 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋