Why do some people believe that sexual orientation is a choice.?

Question

I know I never made any choice. I just who I am. I knew what sex I was attracted to even before I knew what orientation means.

If you did have to make a choice, wouldn't that mean that you are actually bi-sexual and are "in denial"?

Answer 1

I'm really sick of people comparing homosexuals to pedophiles. There is a major difference.

Anyway, while I believe that sexual orientation, for the most part, is genetic, some people have in fact chosen to be homosexual. I know at least one. She also chose later on to be straight. It's very poseur, but some people chose for the sake of being different or trendy.

I did make a choice in a sense. I had an opportunity to act on my physical attraction to a woman. I chose not to. However, if it had been five years later, I would have taken her up on it. Does that mean I'm bi? Does that mean I was merely experimenting? Is experimentation a form of bisexuality? Are there levels of bi-sexuality (I'm of the opinion that there are).

Anyway, I'm not in denial. I know who I'm attracted to. I am not interested (right now) in acting on my physical attraction to women, and to be flat-out honest, I love the male genitalia. It's fun. :)

So, I believe I was born straight, but because I'm open-minded and secure in my sexuality, I believe that I could easily make the choice to be bi.

Answer 2

Most people don't like having their lives set out for them, without them being able to change anything about it; basically, people like to make their own choices. Sexual orientation is part of that, because people like to think they'll choose their partner based on personality, not gender or what society expects.

Technically, everyone is bisexual; even if it's just admiring how someone's body is more toned than their own. In the end, I think you just pick the gender that attracts you more. Some people don't have to choose; they're lucky enough to know what they're looking for. Others...experiment (for lack of a better word). I don't think it's a case of being in denial.

Personally, sexual orientation is a little of both biology and choice. People are naturally attracted to both genders, but simply put, it's up to them to decide which one turns them on more.

Answer 3

what you believe is one thing, what is the truth is another. there is a study that was done few month ago that shows a brain scan of homo sexual people in comparison whit hetero sexual people. the result is that in gay guys, their brain is the same size as straight woman, which the left and right hemisphere of their brain is symmetrical. while lesbian woman and man's Brain are asymmetrical where the left hemisphere is larger then the right. so is this a choice, I don't think so. one thing that i do know is a choice is that people Choose to believe what they want to believe, while disregarding all the evidence that is presented to them with support. just like religion, ever since the introduction of the modern science, there have never been once that the religious community was able to proof the existence of god or miracles repeatably, yet people still believe in it. its beyond my limited understanding.

Answer 4

ok, I will try and answer this as gently and truthfully as I can- We are born in sin- so in that respect yes, homosexuality is what some are born with. I know that is not what you were expecting to hear. I am heterosexual and if I was born a heterosexual then I could say- "I was born this way, that is why I have chosen to have pre-marital sex"- which is also a sin. So in that respect we are all conceived in sin, however, we have a choice if we will live n whatever sin it is- or admit we need someone to Someone to save us from our sin- no matter the sin.

Answer 5

3 reasons for me..
1) I see many questions about people "confused" over their sexual orientation. If it's not a choice, you'd just know, like you said, particularily in a liberal society that accepts homosexuals, and defends them on many levels, like we are in today.
2) I believe anyone can derive sexual pleasure from anyone, because of how we are made physically. The ability to get off or be sexually liberal or fueled and accepting of anyone to releive that doesn't make you a homosexual, it makes you horny. AT one point of time, we could think of the same sex as attractive or even sexy, and NOT think "Maybe I am gay".. and we'd carry on in life, but now with it being taught as a viable option or possibility from kindergarten up, thinking the same sex is attractive raises the question "AM I gay?" It's all conditioning. That is why there are more gay people poppin up all over now.
3) There's been many "homosexuals" DIE HARD, homosexuals who have gone "straight."
There's my 2 cents. Have a great day.

Answer 6

I think a more important question is why does it matter at all whether one's sexual orientation is a choice or biological or a little of both? It's just not something anyone ought to concern himself or herself with unless you happen to be a curious biologist.

Answer 7

To those who claim homosexuals are "born that way", what about people who claim they were born with a propensity for pedophilia, or rape? Is that just something they can't help too? Should that also be socially accepted?

So it's not a choice, and people are just naturally attracted to whoever? By that standard, if a man is attracted to a married woman, he didn't choose to be attracted to her and can't help it, so he is justified in sleeping with her. So why doesn't everyone just sleep with everyone whenever they want?

Because God created us in His image; we are human and have been given wisdom, to know right from wrong, and self-control, and we are accountable for our actions; unlike rabbits that have random, indiscriminate sex.

Answer 8

Because it is. Even if you were "born that way" you still choose to follow that path.

Supposedly alcoholism is hereditary but people who are alcoholics can choose not to drink. Violent tendencies are hereditary but people can choose not to be violent. Eating meat is hereditary but people can choose to be vegetarians.

Heredity isn't the only thing that determines who you are, and using that as a reason for doing anything is in itself then unreasonable.

If a line of reasoning can work for one thing then it should be able to work for everything, else it is flawed. Blaming the way you are on anything other than yourself is the argument children use. Grow up and accept responsibility.

If you have a reasonable argument against what I wrote, then let's hear it for once instead of seeing all of the childish thumbs down. You simply help prove my point by your actions.

Answer 9

Well, I think it's because people know, deep down, that holding an accident of birth against someone is wrong.

So they have to believe that it's NOT a natural condition, an accident of birth, so that they can feel righteous in their hatred/bigotry.

Accepting that this is a natural condition for some people would mean that they'd have to look at themselves rather than point a finger at someone else.

Answer 10

Yeah I saw that "choice" thing in the LGBT section and decided to let it slide. Sexuality, for many, is a "changing/fluid" thing and for others it's pretty much understood in their own minds that it's not and they're one thing or another, but some people can't grasp onto that, let people do what they're going to do as long as it doesn't cause harm/suffering (i.e. bestiality, incest, pedophilia, rape, etc.) they should get over it. Ah well... it's good you brought it up even though you'll likely not get through to everybody.

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