Okay, my mom is dating this great guy. He is very nice and has five kids. Well, my mom has known him for like her whole life, but, they started actually dating in like March or April. They are totally in love. But...The problem is that he isnt totally divorced yet from a previous marrage. I mean, they are totally separated, but not legally divorced yet. (paper problems)
Anyway, I met his daughter and she is only 9 months older then me. We are such good friends and call each other Sis and our parents Mom and Dad.
So, we were talking to Mom and Dad and we asked if they would ever get married. They said Yes, just as soon as those stupid papers are signed in court.
So, is it wrong for me and my sister to go ahead and plan our mom's wedding? We want it to be in Hawii as a barefoot beach wedding....
Can we go ahead and Plan?
2007-07-16 04:50:48 · 9 answers · asked by Summer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I can see you guys are really excited for this to happen! How about asking your mom and dad what kind of wedding they want? Then, while they are waiting for the divorce to become final, you and your sister can start looking for ideas in magazines. Tear out any pages of ideas you think your mom and dad would like, and start organizing your ideas in different folders like: Location, Flowers, Dress, etc.... Im sure they would appreciate your input!
2007-07-16 05:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you can't. It's her wedding, so you can't do anything without her input. What if she'd rather just have a courthouse wedding? Or a big church wedding at home? What if he wants to have a garden wedding or something in the back yard? You have to let them do it, but you can help once things are rolling.
Also, it's hard to guess how long it could take for those papers to come go through. And until he has officially finalized the divorce and ASKED your mom, there's no wedding to plan.
2007-07-16 05:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What if you plan it and those papers dont go through? They cant marry legally if he is still married, so I would suggest waiting until its actually all signed and done. You really run the risk of spending the money and wasting your time on plans that hinder on the US legal system, which isnt running all that smoothly these days. I would wait for now, but collect ideas and everything to tide you over, this way when its time to begin you have everything all chosen and ready to just make orders and phone calls.
2007-07-16 04:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
don't sense undesirable. purely lie and tell her that became the only obtainable Saturday you ought to get in March. as long because of the fact the marriage isn't ON her birthday then it somewhat is ok to have it right here day. purely you may get her a cake and/or presents and by using the prepare consultation dinner you and your loved ones could additionally use it as a occasion on your sister. Have your relatives carry enjoying cards and presents for her the night before for the duration of the prepare consultation dinner.
2016-09-30 02:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can pretend plan.
Until those papers are signed he's still legally married. And who knows how long THAT will take for the divorce to be finalized!
2007-07-16 05:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until the guy is legally divorced. THEN, ask your mom if she'd like some help planning the wedding.
Don't put the cart before the horse. And don't plan on behalf of your mom, unless she asks you to.
2007-07-16 04:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by BeatriceBatten 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you can "plan" all kinds of things on in your head, hun and look at magazines, but don't get too excited until those papers come through! Wait until then and your Mom is ready before you really start ordering anything, okay?
2007-07-16 05:26:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't plan your mother's wedding for her.
Let them plan it themselves when they are ready, ie: when his divorce is final.
It's great that you are so supportive of your mother, but it's entirely possible that she already has some ideas of her own about how she'd like to do this, and that they include shoes but not Hawaii.
2007-07-16 05:13:25 · answer #8 · answered by gileswench 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to plan the wedding. Just hope the papers get signed before the actual wedding happens.
Good luck to your family!
2007-07-16 04:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by beth v 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋