When He and I met, I told him that my b-day was in December. it's in Januray for real.So far I've gotten around showing my b-date, Now, He's asking me to marry him, what Can I do?? this is my first marriage, is the dates written on the marriage licence?
2007-07-16 04:40:34 · 23 answers · asked by suki105 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why would you lie about your birthday to begin with? The truth will come out and that's such a stupid thing to lie about. Not to mention that now you've managed to maintain this lie and continue lying to him. You'll be lucky if he still wants to marry you. If you'll lie about something as simple as your birthday, then what else would you lie about? That's going to be his line of thinking. Yes, he will find out, because when you go to apply for a marriage license, you both have to be there and present the required identification that will have your birthdate on it. Why would you want to continue lying to him about this if you want to marry him? Just tell the truth already and hope you can salvage your relationship. Don't keep trying to cover up the truth and the fact that you lied.
2007-07-16 04:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why did you lie about wht month your bithday is in? I'm confused. I know people who have lied about what year they were born in- my mom married my dad thinking he was 24 when he was really only 21 because he had lied about his birth year to seem older for his job. I know she felt really deceived when she found out about it, because she felt like they were starting their marriage with lies. They ended up getting divorced, so there you go.
I still don't understand why you gave him a fictitious birth month, but at any rate, the answer is YES, the bride and groom's birthdates will appear on the license. Furthermore, the judge or minister presiding over the signing of the marriage license will ask you both to read it carefully and verify the information, so he will definitely see the birthdate. I think you should just come clean with him right now about why you lied about the birthday (whatever that reason my be...) and tell him you'll never lie to him again. He'll possibly see it as a trivial thing to lie about and be OK with it.
P.S. What day in January? My b-day is the 24th. Congrats on your engagement!
2007-07-16 04:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you lie to him about something silly like that?
It is not a good basis for a marriage. If you have lied to him about that, what else have you not told him?
How have you been celebrating your birthdays up til now?
I think you had better tell him before the big day. Give him time to get over it. Hopefully it will be no big deal to him.
2007-07-16 10:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why the heck would you lie to him about that?? If you're lying to him about something so stupid, what else are you lying about? You should not be marrying this guy if you can't even be honest to him about something this trivial.
When you apply for a marriage license, you have to have governement-issued ID (like a driver's license), and your birth dates have to be written on the application, which you both will sign. If you enter the wrong birthdate, the clerk will notice and make you change it. If you enter the right birthdate, you will make your future husband look like a fool for having a lying fiance. Grow up... you're not mature enough for marriage.
2007-07-16 04:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends upon the state...in NY, my bday is written on my marriage license. I wonder how long the two of you have been together. I agree with the other posts that you should just tell him. Starting out your marriage with a lie (especially such a dumb lie) is not a good idea. Have you celebrated your birthday yet? If not, maybe you can "correct" him and say that you bday is in January if he tries to celebrate it in December...lol
2007-07-16 04:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My birthday is in December but I tell people it's in November. If they ask which day in November, I tell them November 31st. They usually get a strange look on their face but don't go any further. Because my birthday is in the very beginning of December and stuck between Thanksgiving and Christmas most people forget about it. By saying Nov 31st, which doesn't exist, people start asking in late November which day it is and that way it isn't forgotten as much. Maybe you can explain something like that to your finance because early January is also forgotten as people are still celebrating Christmas and the New Year. Tell him you just didn't want your birthday forgotten.
2007-07-16 05:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by Cricket 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why did you lie to him about your birthday? Is it because you aren't of legal age?
This is no way to start off a marriage. Tell him when your birthday really is. Better to hear it from you directly than to find out some other way and have to explain.
2007-07-16 05:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What was the reasoning for the lie? I am having trouble understanding why you did this to begin with. I've heard of women lying about the years they were born, but never the day, especially when the days are only weeks apart. Could you explain.
2007-07-16 04:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
WHY did you lie about when your birthday was?
What else are you lying to him about?
Not a good way to start off a relationship yet alone a marriage!!!
2007-07-16 05:43:16 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're mature enough to get married, you're mature enough to tell him your real birthday.
If you're not ready to be honest, then you're not ready for marriage. Marriage takes a lot of honesty.
Besides, the difference is one month. Why would you even bother to lie about that?
Just come clean.
2007-07-16 05:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by gileswench 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋