My husband and I have been married for almost 1 months now, and all we do is hug and kiss and cuddle. I admit it is very nice. but I feel like we're missing out on sex real bad. Initially in the marriage he we were not able to have sex. I'm a virgin who's obviously got a tough hymen or something. It's like he tries to push in and it somehow slides out, no matter how hard he is! He always tried fingering but after that I have a burning sensation for the next half a day. My husband still tries…but he is very polite and caring, coz he fears if It hurt me…
Don’t know why, he makes love to me very passionately…I love him so much and I like it so much when he loves me, but don’t know, why I don’t feel any excitement…..may be that’s why I remain bit dry…I mean, I see he is very exited, his breaths become different…but, I remain as usual…why this? I m 19 years, to be noted and my husband 28. i love him a lot..so there is no question about not getting turned on considering him a new man..
2007-07-16 03:57:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like maybe you need a little more foreplay, a lot of lube, and to try one more time.
If that doesn't work, a visit to the doctor may be needed. If it's really painful for you, something's wrong.
2007-07-16 04:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to relax a little bit more. Maybe you have never even explored your body let alone someone else. I think you need to find what you like by yourself first. You are in a very tricky situation since you are married and you should both know what makes you "excited" and what does not. If his breathing is changing and yours isn't then I believe you aren't as into it as he is because you aren't relaxed. Maybe a little wine or a few candles, a bubble bath, aromatherapy anything to help you relax would help a lot. Instead of laying there and thinking about what you should be doing and at what time, and what happened the last few times just don't worry about anything and just concentrate on your husband and your love for each other. As far as him not being able to insert you, it could be a few things. First if you are not "excited" enough you may not be wet at all and it would make it near impossible for him to insert into you. Also maybe you are a dry person and some lubrication would help tremedously. I also think that maybe because your young you have heard lots of horror stories about losing your virginity and don't worry most of them aren't true. I am thinking you may just not be ready which really stinks because you are married and it's something that a man and a woman who are in love should be able to do. So my best advice is relax get a massage from him and learn about your body on your own. Some adult novelty stores even have lubrication that help you have a tingly feeling down there... and if that doens't get you excited I don't know what will!! I hope you learn how to make it work for you and have fun!!
2016-05-19 01:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go buy a good lubricant at the store. Sometimes no matter how much you may be turned on more lube never hurts. You may not be getting turned on anymore because you are nervous or scared that it wont "work" when you try to have sex. Please try a lubricant and dont be embarrassed, my husband and I have been married for 10 yrs and I know that I LOVE my lube, it just makes it more enjoyable for me and him. Good luck!
2007-07-16 04:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you need to go to a doctor he will be able to take care of the hymen. It usually takes awhile to get to really like sex . But if your husband is loving and patient you will come around and then it will be great .
2007-07-16 04:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by feistyirishme7 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, sounds like a medical problem to me. There are simple surgerys you could get to help with these issues. If the hymen refuses to break you should see a doctor about it, sex is a healthy part of marraige. Don't miss out, it's not your fault.
2007-07-16 04:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by Untitled Sabrina Project 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to your doctor, you gyn. They can break or cut the hymen and then you two will not have so much trouble and he will not have to worry about hurting you. You also need to talk to the doctor about your lack of desire and the dryness these could be symptoms of something else
2007-07-16 04:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hmm...you might want to contact a doctor about it, normally I would say these kinds of things shouldn't happen at your age. A medical professional might know something you can do to improve the situation.
2007-07-16 04:01:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that you and your husband are very much in love! I would suggest going to you gynecologist and explain the problem and see what they suggest.
2007-07-16 04:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by Ailrys 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you used personal lubrication? If not, then do so! if so, then it is time to pay a visit to your doctor. Don't wait! Good luck.
2007-07-16 04:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1- Down a large amount of your fav booze
2- Astroglide....look for it in stores ite great
3- Have at it
2007-07-16 04:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by Buffet4life 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋