What's up with my little sister?...Is she overly confident or jealous of me? Ten points for best answer!!!!!

Question

OK, my first question on yahoo!

I adore my little sister (by one year) but lately she has been getting on my nerves.
Reasons...
1. We were talking this morning and she said she could pretty much get any guy around her age to go out with her...no matter who it is
2. She is planning to ask out my ex today as a "joke"...yesterday she did the same with my older sisters boyfriend......Why does she do this, to boost her ego?
3. Ever since she got this massive tan (KFC original crispy), ha, she like adores herself in the mirror and constantly shows it off...like "check out my tan"
4. I told her, as a JOKE that my stomach was so tight and the guys would love it...her response was calling me aneorexic-misspelled constantly.
5. Three months ago a guy was hitting on me and asked me for my number, with my sister around...the next day I had no school, sis. did and when she came home she had his no. and has been talking to him ever since

she is def. giving me inferiority comp. Thnks

And NO...she has always been the golden child...everything is handed to her...I have to work for everything I get...which is probably more beneficial for my future

Oh yeah...and she stayed back a year so she already has an advantage with guys in her grade (9)...she's bigger than the girls in the ninth grade

ALSO...I just tried talking to her about this...like many suggestions...she was ignoring me...mainly because she is addicted to myspace...and can't go without it for a minute

Anymore suggestions!!!!!

WOW guys, nice work with the suggestions!...The nair worked wonders for a part of her eyebrow...it was an accident, I swear...and where can you buy fat bars?????...Just Kidding...and SueB3...I'll try that tomorow, ha...maybe then I can get to her

You guys are the best:-)

Answer 1

She's definitely competing with you. I would not say she's overly confident. She has a need to be noticed and she wants to be seen as better than - not only better than you but apparently your other sister. She's doing these things to boost her ego but she's most likely not aware of the damaging effect some of this stuff could have on her relationship with you (i.e., moving in on the guy that was hitting on you).

To help you deal with it a little better, take a step back and look at what's going on underneath. She's trying to develop her identity. She's the "little sister" and wants to be seen as grown up. Don't let her actions make you feel inferior. You have complete control over how you react to her so don't go down that road. You are just as beautiful and wonderful as she is. In some ways more so because you've been tolerating her actions for a while. Just understand that she's no better or worse than you. She's just not as self confident as you and is trying to find her way.

Maybe talk to her and tell her what you're feeling. Tell her she doesn't have to do the things she's been doing to get attention. Tell her you love her just the way she is and give her some encouragement. If possible set up a sisters day so the three of you can hang out as equals and have some fun together. That way she'll feel included and maybe won't feel the need for the one-upmanship stuff she's been doing. Hang in there, she'll grow up eventually.

Answer 2

My little sister doesn't do that but she constantly acts like she is better than me. I kinda know where you are coming from. The best thing I can say is to just live your life being yourself. She may have the tan and the looks but she will not have that forever. Try not to meet guys with her and only introduce them to her if you feel the relationship is serious and forewarn him about your sister; a guy that is into you won't fall to her charms and if her does you didn't need someone that fickle.
I am sorry, I am too much of a smarta@* to let her do that without commenting or at least giving some sisterly advice. Like running around with boys like that could give her a slutty or tease reputation and all that tanning is going to seriously damage your skin. This sister also sounds very jealous of you; sometimes people will make themselves feel more important by bragging or putting you down.

Have you ever let her know how you feel? For now, be strong and don't give her comments or actions much attention to show she isn't bothering you.

Answer 3

It sounds to me like your little sister is jealous of you for whatever reason. The fact that a guy would hit on you and then she comes home with his number says she's in competition with you. I think it's her who's feeling inferiority and is trying to compensate for it.

Your little sister, you didn't say how old she is by the way, I would guess she's at the age where she's dying for attention from the opposite sex. The more notches she can get on her belt helps to boost her ego. She's in enough competition with girls at school, it's too bad it has to be at home too. There must be some animosity between you two. Have you teased her in the past about her looks or personality as most brothers and sisters do?...

I think you need to sit her down, tell her you love her (you know deep down you do) and let her know you are on her side. --Good Luck!

Answer 4

Jealousy, she is insecure. Notice that when you said you had a tight stomach...instead of saying that her own was better (overly confident) she tried to put you down instead and called you anorexic(making you feel inferior to make herself feel better).
Asking out the boyfriends is probably an attempt at validation. She is trying to prove to herself that she is as good as you by getting your ex. Afterall, (in her head) if he wanted you, why wouldn't he want her?
The tan is another attempt to make herself feel better...she wants to show off something that you don't have (even if it doesn't look that great,lol).
Stealing the guy was a very low thing for her to do, but again, just trying to validate herself. She probably feels like you get everything...and she doesn't measure up. On the plus side, at least you know now that the guy is scum...and she will eventually learn this too. She will learn her lesson.
It is probably very hard to ignore it, but I wouldn't start going mad at her. She has a problem...I would just be overly nice to her. Her attempts at attention and validation will get harsher and worse...but it would really piss her off if you just didn't give her the reaction she wants. She wants to see you doubt yourself, it giver her power.
Thats just my humble opinion....

Answer 5

Wow! I couldn't imagine having a sister like that. Everyone knows the number one rule is not to hit on guys your sisters date....joke or not. My younger sister would never have disrespected me nor I her in that way.
She must not be able to sustain a relationship so she tries to get attention where ever she can. She is jealous and immature or would not have called you anorexic. She can't feel for others so she loves herself and expects everyone else to love her also. She'll use any tactic she can to draw attention to herself that why she's trying to show off this tan of hers.
You aren't inferior to her in any way, don't allow her to make you feel that way. Try not to engage her in negative responses because she's looking to annoy you. Just smile and be happy it's the best revenge.

Answer 6

Your little sister is going through a phase. I have a little sister of my own (I'm 17 and she's 16) and she is so dam immature. But I won't complain cause we're the older ones and we're supposed to be more mature (even if it's A LOT more mature). As an older sibling you're supposed to set a good example for her, so just keep doing all the right things. Don't do anything you wouldn't want your lil sister to do. Yeah, being the older one sucks.

Answer 7

Your right about life being beneficial later on. Plus most of the world has that "Brat" baby sibling. She looks up to all of you, she wants to be like you. Maybe you and your older sister should keep things a little more quiet around little Sissy, some things you don't want her to know about. This will get your nerves to stop rattling when she's near. Good Luck to you.

Answer 8

Haha it sounds like she has a severe confidence issue. Her self-esteem is obviously so low that she is doing all of these things just to try and boost her ego, and also to try and get a rouse out of you. The best thing to do in this situation, I would say, is keep your cool and pretend it doesn't get to you. Because really, it shouldn't. She is the one with deeper issues, whereas this is probably not the case for you. Just keep your head up and your confidence level up. This is something that she will eventually have to deal with on her own, as it deals with her own sense of self-worth. Smile and don't worry! :)

Answer 9

Haha, i'm getting that feeling each and every now and then too. that's completely customary so dont worry approximately it. perhaps your female purely needs to have some on my own time with you, and its purely like extraordinary while yet another chum joins in, that's going to provide her the feel that she needs to scouse borrow you far flung from her. So she would have the ability to declare stuff like pass away.

Answer 10

My little sister does the same thing and we have the same age difference. Ignore what she does for one week. Don't comment, don't even acknowledge her. She feeds off your reactions to what she does. In other words she likes to see you get annoyed and frustrated. If it seems to her that her tormenting has no affect on you, she won't see it as fun as it was before. She'll start doing it less and less, because there's no more pleasure in it. Soon, it will become just an occupation of her time with no benfit to her, and she will just stop. Believe me, it works. It's no fun for her if no one acknowledges her "wonderful attributes" (sarcasm intended)