im really worried about my family and i want my mom to be around when i graduate ,but they don't even care -i serously need help ,please.
2007-07-16 03:50:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
try introducing lifestyle changes without looking like your forcing it down on them
go to the grocery store whenever food are bought and offer healthier alternatives
try to explain the benefits of being more active and the dangers of obesity without sounding like your preaching
if you are genuinely concerned about your family's health then you should be able to talk to them about it openly
pick your timing though, make sure you get all your concerns and argument points across
2007-07-16 04:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by filosofo tacio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. ... People need to reach for help on their own, because they want to change. Usually they are the way they are because it is somehow working for them. So, step back and take a look at why members of your family are overweight. What purpose is it serving them? Does it give them an excuse when they need an excuse? Does it mean they do not have to do something they would like to avoid doing? Was your mother's mom, or someone else she really cared about when she was a child, greatly overweight?
Nagging people to change means, to them, you are pointing at them and saying they are wrong. People do not like that.
Most people who are overweight (I mean, in the obese category, not carrying an extra 20 lbs) are not happy about the weight. So they already know the news you're bringing. Often they are unhappy about other things in their lives. It takes changing the other things to bring the weight down.
I would say, your best bet is to talk with your mother about a LOT of things, and to listen to her. Ask her advice about things that she does know about. *really* listen to her advice. Acknowledge her when she speaks to you. Listen, listen, listen. And grant her the ability to help you.
It's peculiar... but people will help YOU when they think they cannot accept help FROM you. And just helping you is helping them. Then you can also do what another answerer mentioned: ask her to walk with you in the morning or something. You can ask by telling her you have been walking but it is getting boring and your motivation needs a boost, and you need a reliable walking partner (her) and someone you like to talk with (her, once you're doing that). And can she help you out? :-D
2007-07-16 11:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by LaWeezel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. It's very frustrating. Everyone in my family is quite weight conscious except for my mom, who has been overweight and gaining for over 30 years. She now has Diabetes because of it. The rest of us chipped in and got her a Weight Watchers membership, plus some exercise videos. She wasted away some of the membership and has used the exercise video once. It's frustrating. The rest of us know the health risks of diabetes, but she's in denial about it--her favorite place to be. It's like dealing with a smoker, alcoholic, or druggy. How do you get them to stop smoking, drinking, or doing drugs?
You can do some encouraging, but it's likely they won't listen, but hey maybe one day they will and you'll be there to help them along. You keep being an example and taking care of yourself. I wish there were some magic words to say to people to get them to pay attention to their weight, but there just isn't. Everyone has to decide for themselves.
2007-07-16 11:12:30 · answer #3 · answered by Andee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u can ask them to work out with u- then u just take it a little easier- some people are happy at their weight and all and there isnt any thing u can do about it-
u can always try to mention it to them taht u are worried about them and their health and offer them help---
2007-07-16 10:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by JenH-RN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is lead by example and express your concern about their health. It's up to them to decide to make changes.
When I was very overweight, it did not matter how much my husband nagged me... in fact that only made me less likely to make changes because I was resenting him for it.
It had to be my decision, and it took a significant event to get me to make that decision.
Good luck
2007-07-16 10:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by nephthys76 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them all to take walks with you in the morning. tht works for me. my family is over weight too. i am thin coz i run track and dance. i would like them to be healthier.. just ask them to walk with you or workout wiht you
2007-07-16 10:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by -Cay- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol yeah well if ur parents r just as ignorant as my dad-u dont stand a chance...
2007-07-16 10:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by asd w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋