I've had issues in my past need resolving that I have finally decided to talk to someone about professionally. I am 17, and have plans of training in childcare for a year, than Nanning in America for two years. The problem is the application forms al ask if I've ever had depression or gotten help, and I'm scared if I say yes that they won't let me go. I have never physically harmed anyone or anything, and I don't have a police record. I really need to see someone before the problems come back, or continue to remind me of an unhappy past. I don't know what I want to do, because my Nanny exchange is important to me, but getting counsilling is probably not something I should put off for the next three years. What should I do? I thought getting counsilling was a normal part of life?
2007-07-16 03:29:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm a New Zealander. This is how we spell. Get over it. No offence. Not everyone uses American grammar and spelling.
For example for you its "Mom" but for us its "Mum"- who is right? Both of us. But I bet you didn't know there were other ways to spell words huh?
2007-07-16 03:37:26 · update #1
I'm not a danger to anyone else. I just feel my heart breaking sometimes when I think about the ways some people have treated me. I love kids though and would never do anything to harm me. My clients love me and I do a good job most of the time (sometimes I run out of time to clean-up!). I haven't had any complaints and I don't think the fact I've suffered from depression would change any of their opinions on me.
2007-07-16 03:39:48 · update #2
I've never been diagnosed with depression, I just know I have it. I thought I was bipolar, but thank God, I'm not. I'm not that extreme. I think I would have been alright if I hadn't been bullied. Thats whats caused me to be unhappy.
2007-07-16 03:41:00 · update #3
Just cause I'm unhappy a small percentage of the time doesn't mean I'm unstable.
2007-07-16 03:42:35 · update #4
Don't most people have to get counsiling eventually though? Whether its because of marriage break-ups, abortions, deaths in the family, depression, or stress?
2007-07-16 03:45:06 · update #5
What if I did it privately? Like called a helpline, or just talked to someone from my church? Would that be kept confidential or go on my records?
2007-07-16 03:49:11 · update #6
i recommend that you should include your true history. But unless you were clinically diagnosed with depression it will not make any bit of difference.
2007-07-16 03:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by dan l 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I were an employer, I wouldn't look twice at depression, because it's rather prevalent in our society. But, I would want to see that the applicant was on top of the depression--that she was under a doctor's care and was seeing a therapist.
Depression doesn't bother me, as long as you admit you got help. That's the only responsible way to react to depression, and as an employer, I need to know that you'll do the responsible thing.
For example, I would hire an alcoholic, if the person had been clean for a while and was still attending AA meetings and taking meds. You see the connection? If he were not taking meds any more, out the door with him. I have to know that he'll take care of his issues and not bring them to work with him.
It sounds to me like you could benefit from medication--it would prevent the "down" times, and you definitely could use therapy. Sounds like you've been subject to some trauma and perhaps it needs to be resolved.
Okay. I've pulled your ear, I'm sure. I just hope my message is coherent enough for someone from Down Unda.
Debbie
TX mom
2007-07-22 12:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interestingly, I have discussed this very issue with various nanny employment agencies. I have gone so far as to report some for violation of the ADA act. Unfortunately, they are able to skirt the law in most instances, because they are not directly employing nannies...they are serving as a 'screening service' for those who may employ you.
Here is the bottom line: if you indicate that you have been treated for and/or are currently suffering from depression, it is very unlikely that you will get a job. It is wrong. it is unfair, However, that is the reality. What you have to decide, is whether or not you are willing to share the information.
You might be smart to complete as many applications NOW (as in this week) where you can honestly check off "no" to the questions regarding mental health (because you have not been officially diagnosed yet). Make sure you sign AND DATE them.
I encourage you to seek treatment. It is VITAL that you are healthy. There is NOTHING more important than that. Absolutely nothing. They go by what you check off on that application. They do not have access to your medical records (particularly true given that you are out of the country).
In my opinion, these agencies should be legally stopped from asking these questions (other USA employers are banned from asking them). Unfortunately, that is not the case. Until it IS illegal for them to do so, they will continue to ask these questions which, for anyone else, would constitute a violation of the ADA.
Hang in there,
~M~
2007-07-16 10:46:29 · answer #3 · answered by michele 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to take care of your issues/problems before starting your training.
Don't be ashamed or scared of the consequences of getting help, if you don't want to see a psychiatrist then go to your church and talk to someone.
Just because they ask those questions doesn't mean you won't be hired. They have to know of any problems that might arise during your time with them and that the children will be safe.
Best of Luck to you =)
2007-07-16 10:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by Helpfulhannah 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best policy. Getting counseling is not a normal part of everyone's life, but it can be an essential part of some people's life. If you need it, get it! Don't put it off. Go from there. Talk to people in the business. Get as much info as you can before making a decision.
2007-07-16 10:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since depression is quite common, it is probably a non-issue. But, it is their business. The #1 concern is for the children.
It's best to be honest and think of it this way: wouldn't you (were you a parent) want someone looking after your child to disclose any kind of mental health concern that they have?
And then let those with experience in dealing with these issues decide if it is a non-issue or not.
2007-07-16 10:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by Seems so. . . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you are seeing your psychiatrist and your not dangerous or have never displayed and harm to other's in the past. i think your private life is your own. if you went around telling people you have depression. no one would hire you not as a nanny not as anything that has to deal with people.
2007-07-22 20:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See depression treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net. (.net.nz/~shaneris) on page 2: co-counselling may be the solution to your problem, if combined with the above treatments; then it's just talk, between friends: the important thing is to express your thoughts and feelings, then listen, when it's your turn.
2007-07-16 10:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are a danger to someone else I would'nt go through with this, I have had past problems as well, and I would keep them to yourself as far as jobs are concerned.I would keep the counseling ,it's ok to get help.
2007-07-16 10:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by Michael H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be honest, if they find out another way, you will never get in.
You did get help...it's a good thing, if you were depressed and didn't, that would be bad.
2007-07-16 10:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Stacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋