I am not married 2 this man,we just made love once and now am pregant and i don't want 2 hav his baby coz he is iiresponsible and has other women, but he says i sh'd carry out an abortion, what sh'd i do coz i don't want him, pliz help me out.
2007-07-16 03:23:12 · 32 answers · asked by maggie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your choice...abort, go through with the pregnancy and give the child up for adoption, or go through with the pregnancy and raise the child yourself.
Decide what's best for you and then move forward.
2007-07-16 03:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone has to learn by their own mistakes, but don't do anything that you may regret later on in life. There are many single mums out there that do a great job of bringing up their children. If you feel that aborting this pregnancy is the answer, then do it as early as you can before it develops anymore. This is a tough decision to make, but don't get rid of the baby just cos he says so, its your body and feelings that have to go through with this. I know lots of woman who have had abortions and they still think about what it would have been like if they had kept it. So just cos you get rid, doesn't mean that you forget!!
2007-07-16 03:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to have children? There are two options, and the first you will need to decide on quickly. You can have an abortion. OR you could give the child a loving home with people desperate for children, through adoption. There are countless people who would help you out through the pregnancy and with councelling, and YOU get to choose who adopts. Those are your 2 choices if you do not wish to be a parent yet.
2007-07-16 03:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by thecret8thquirrel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off, this man has absolutely no right to tell you anything so I'd just forget about him and make sure hes completely out of the picture.
What you need to focus on is what you're going to do, what's best for you? Don't let ANYONE else try and force you into doing what they think is right. At the end of the day only you can decide what's best.
At the end of the day I personally feel that this isnt the best environment to bring up a child in but then if you feel differently you shouldn't listen to me, I'm just giving you my opinion.
If you think you can cope then by all means have the baby (contrary to popular belief not all single mothers are bad!) and tell this guy to F*** off. If he doesn't want to be a part of its life then he doesnt have to does he?
Good luck in whatever you decide and remember you only ever have to answer to yourself and owe no one any justification of your decisions.
2007-07-16 20:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by Rainbow-Taster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he will not be there for you and does not care, him telling you to have an abortion should have made you realise that. Do not have this baby just because you think it will make him be with you, have this baby because you want to. Sometimes it is better to abort than to keep a child you do not really want. If the idea of aborting is too much, have you thought about having the child adopted.
2007-07-16 04:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I even have heard that infant's could be born early whilst the mummy makes use of drugs. Plus there are ton's of well being issues that the infant might desire to be born with or that the infant might desire to die from. If the mummy has found out she is pregnant and Stopped making use of the medicine perchance the being pregnant could be carried the finished 9 months. i'm hoping she is going to the surgeon like she is assume to.
2016-10-03 22:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by trapani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really do not want this child, then put the child up for adoption. I do not agree with abortion, but I cannot make your decision for you.
If you put the child up for adoption, you may be giving a couple who are unable to have children of their own a wonderful opportunity of having a child that they will love and care for, which in the way you come across, you feel you will not be able to do.
But please just think that you have the wonderful and miraculous thing of having another living person growing inside you- give that person, that baby, the best life it can possibly have. Abortion doesn't have to be the way...
2007-07-16 05:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by Cookie_Monster_UK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O dear. Abortions cause alot of emotion distress.
If you are going to carry out an abortion go to a counsellor or get all the facts from the internet.
Before getting one you really need to know what your going to do and have to have a way of dealing with it!
Some ppl however, say the abortion they hd has been the best decision they have ever made but others say it has ruined their life since.
It all depends on ow emotionally effected by it you would be.
Talk to a counsellor or go to an abortion clinic.
2007-07-16 03:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by Foxylittlekitten 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want the baby and you don't want to deal with that man for the next 18 years then you know darn well what you need to do. Either have an abortion or give the baby up for adoption. I would suggest adoption because it's not the kid's fault that his/her parents were only thinking about their pleasure at the moment.
2007-07-16 03:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Caliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the adoption section in Yahoo answers, there lady on there desperate to adopt! Or through parenting theres a lady questionning about abortions, check her answers before making any major decisions. Other than that...yeah, not my deal.
2007-07-16 03:50:36 · answer #10 · answered by Cherrypie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋