I am 8 months pregnant and not up to the trip. I assumed since I didn't receive an invitation sooner I wasn't invited. The thing that makes me feel guilty is the fact that I set these two up! HELP!!!
2007-07-16 03:21:33 · 20 answers · asked by Carmen V 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No - it certainly is not rude to decline an invitation - that's what rsvp cards are for - and please don't feel you need to explain your decision. Just check off the section that says "will be unable to attend". But just because you decline doesn't let you off the hook for sending a gift! Send the gift to the brides home before the wedding date - and you can always slip in a little note saying how much you were looking forward to attending but with your present condition you hope they understand you missed the wedding. And wish them the best of luck.
2007-07-16 09:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by joesgrl90 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, they should have sent the invites no later than 6 weeks before the wedding simply because people have already made plans for vacation, cannot take the time off of work, can't afford to travel, or in your case, it's not a good idea to travel too far from home. It was rude of them to wait so long and I assume they know you are pregnant and in the late stages of your pregnancy. Maybe send a card and say "thanks, but can't make it" and a gift card or check if you can afford it. If not, surely they will understand that your money is tight with the impending birth of your baby.
Congrats on the baby and don't feel bad about not making it to the wedding.
2007-07-16 03:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think it's a little rude to invite someone just two weeks before the wedding and something like that sort of does sound like you weren't initially invited. You simply cannot (or should not) go due to your pregnancy if the trip is by plane or a long drive away. It's understandable why you can't come. Be honest and tell them why. If you simply say you can't make it, they may either A) not care or B) wonder why you just bailed out (ppl assume that sometimes when they aren't offered an alternative but sometimes put it together themselves).
2007-07-16 03:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an invitation, not a court-ordered appearance. The only thing that is rude is to not either accept or decline promptly, as in within a couple of days.
Actually, if they waited until 2 weeks before the wedding to invite you, chances are you were not on their 'A' list.
Oh, and if you do not attend, you do not need to send a gift.
2007-07-16 04:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go. Send a gift. I had a small wedding and one of my friends was bashing my small wedding, so I didn't want to invite her and her fiance for a while. We were both engaged at the time and we had difference of opinions on how spectacular and fabulous a wedding should be. I was fine with simple cheaper wedding and she was angrily telling me why she didn't want that awful crap for her wedding. To make a long story short, I sent her and her fiance a wedding invite 2 weeks before the wedding only because I almost didn't invite them at all. She had plans to go to Florida already, so didn't come. We're not friends any longer. This is what may have happened to you. Anyway, don't go! Take care of yourself!
2007-07-16 03:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by daisy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not up to the trip then you should not feel guilty about it as you are expecting !Just send a note to the couple and explain that it is close to your time and I'm sure they will understand. Maybe once everything is all settled you can all get together and they can even meet the new baby !
2007-07-16 04:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, especially since you recieved the invite so close to the wedding. If it were my wedding, I would understand, especially with you being so pregnant :-) I dont think you should feel guilty. maybe you could include a note saying your sorry you cant make it, but will be with them in spirit... and look foward to getting together after your baby is born to catch up and see the wedding pix... :-)
2007-07-16 03:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by mel_731 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 8 months pregnant. Even if you got the invite sooner, you'd still be 8 months pregnant =) Tell them you feel badly for missing it, but you're just too swollen, bloated and miserable to go. You'll be there in "spirit."
2007-07-16 03:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ JustAChick ♥ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry to pay attention approximately your mom, yet so happy you're making arrangements to have your wedding ceremony quickly. easily somebody substantial adequate to ask from out of city, is substantial adequate to describe approximately your mom, in the event that they have not heard from someplace else. shifting up your wedding ceremony date isn't a recent grab, neither is it rude. you're inviting each and every of the folk you will have invited 2 years from now, save those you ought to fulfill then, which you have not yet. that's nice if there is not an RSVP, and distinctly an RSVP card. maximum out of towners gets in touch with you or somebody to be certain greater in the event that they are attracted to coming. easily if there are kin who do not yet understand approximately your mom's analysis, they'd desire to be certain as quickly as available by using a telephone call or digital mail. I advise, you do not could call all your aunts and uncles and cousins individually; you ought to call one or 2 of them and ask them to enable their little ones and siblings understand. some ought to rearrange their duties so as that they'd attend and likewise see your mom, in spite of in the event that they oftentimes does not have the skill to make it on short observe. do not think of on it. you're doing what you may desire to do, and if human beings are not empathetic with that, they'd stay domicile.
2016-09-30 02:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't feel guilty if you don't go. You are expecting a baby and can't make the trip. Get them a nice gift, and ship it off with a card saying that with the impending birth of the baby you can't make the trip but express your warm wishes.
2007-07-16 03:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by Julie R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋