Forgive and you will be forgiven?

Question

Hi everyone i'm a christian and try to follow The God's word everyday but how do you forgive someone, when they don't deserve to be forgiven? I'm still upset about a cop shooting in NY City last monday, unfortunatly PO Russel Timoshenko passed away on saturday, and I really can't not find even a gram of forgivness in my heart for 3 suspects , nor i can't understand how can you just shoot someone point blanck and just go on with your life!!!!!!!!!! People like that make me sick!!!!!!

Answer 1

these feelings are normal. someone does something evil, and yet jesus tells us to forgive our enemies. it can be confusing. but look deeper, jesus was always telling us basically not to hate. how? love your neighbor as you love yourself, let he who hath not sinned cast the first stone. and why would jesus tell us not to hate people? because hate eats you up inside. it affects how your treat even the ones you love. you look at the world in a different light, you see negativity, and evil everywhere. this has a negative effect on people around you.

you dont have to like these people who committed this crime, you can even hope they get the punishment they deserve, but you should also pray that they see the light of god, and change their life before it is too late. put it in a personal light, say it was your child that committed the crime, would you hate them? would you disown them? would you never forgive them? the answer to these questions is likely no. why? because you have a connection to them. it is harder when you are not connected to the person to forgive them, but remember to hate the sin, but love the sinner.

Answer 2

Yeh, it's kind of a catch-22, if you know what that means. Why should the Lord forgive you of your sins if you cannot forgive others? However, I do need to caution you that this is still fresh. You will soon come to resolve your soul with this.

And I don't really think YOU are the one that needs to do the forgiving if it's not toward you that the offense was made. It would be the victim's family that needs to find forgiveness for the murderer.

Keep asking God for grace in this situation. You don't need to understand it. You need to get peace from it. You have no idea why this happened, whom it affected, or the purpose it was meant to serve. Read Job. The Lord knows what's going on and why things happen. Someone somewhere has learned what they were supposed to learn from this. We may never know what that lesson was until we reach our resting place. Then - - most likely, it won't matter.

Pray for grace, pray for peace. You can get by this without being so judgmental.

in Christ - katiefish <><

Answer 3

I know what you mean about finding forgiveness difficult. I've never had to deal with something so tragic and the strength it takes to forgive something like that is amazing. The truth is, we are only human. We cannot forgive on our own because we are just as messed up as anyone else. The good news is that we don't have to and God doesn't expect us to! It will probably take time and a whole lot of prayer, but God will give you the strengh that it takes to forgive. He never abandons us in times like this. In fact, he walks with us and feels our pain. He uses these times of trials to strengthen us and transform us into the people he intends us to be. Sometimes we don't understand why things happen. These are the times when all we can do is trust. Trust in his plan and in his purpose. Check out Jeremiah 29:11. God uses all of this for our good. I know it is hard to forgive, but with the Lord's help he enables us to do the impossible.

Answer 4

That is a shame to hear about police officer being shot and killed because people are cold. One thing about forgiveness I learned is that you forgive to help you. It makes you a better person. Even though I will never forget, and things still do come up that remind me how hurt I was. I try. I understand your feelings and have complete compassion. But it isn't going to do you any good to hang on to this. People make mistakes of all kinds. Time will help you rise above this and see it is ok to forgive people when they hurt you.

Answer 5

What you are feeling is normal, it's a righteous indignation.
The Bible says, we can be angry, but warns not to sin.
What you and everyone else see happening is the manifestation of man's sinful nature.
Recognize that we are ALL in the same boat. We are all of us sinners. Being saved doesn't change our human nature. That, we have to crucify daily.
You are grieving over sin. Any Christian would.
If someone sins against YOU, yes, you are called upon to forgive. Sometimes, that ain't easy. It becomes easier when you remember that you yourself aren't without sin.

Answer 6

Well if you can't not find it in your heart to forgive then there are two points to make.

1. That's a double negative so in some way you've already forgiven them.

2. You can't be a very good Christian if you can't forgive, particularly as they didn't do anything to you. But as I said in point 1 you already have forgiven them.

Answer 7

they do deserve to be forgiven because they are Gods children too. Nothing can occur outside of God's will.
Everything is exactly as it must be.
It is perfect.
So you must forgive because you do not have a place for such anguish and disdain.
You only hurt yourself with such in you heart.

Answer 8

Forgiveness would be simple if we only had to grant it to those who come asking for it in sorrow and repentance. The Bible tells us that we are to forgive those who sin against us, without condition. Refusing to truly forgive a person demonstrates resentment, bitterness, and anger – none of which should be the traits of a Christian. In the Lord's Prayer, we ask God to forgive us our sins, just as we forgive those who sin against us (Matthew 6:12). Jesus said in Matthew 6:14-15, “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” In light of other Scriptures that speak of God’s forgiveness, Matthew 6:14-15 is best understood to be saying that people who refuse to forgive others have likely not truly experienced God’s forgiveness themselves.

Whenever we miss the mark by disobeying one of God's commands, we sin against Him. Whenever we wrong another person, we not only sin against them, but also against God. When we take a look at the enormity of God's mercy to forgive us of ALL of our transgressions, we realize that we do not have the right to withhold this grace from others. We have sinned against God infinitely more than any person can sin against us. If God forgives us of so much, how can we refuse to forgive others for so little? Jesus’ parable in Matthew 18:23-35 is a powerful illustration of this truth. God promises that when we come to Him asking for forgiveness, He freely grants it (1 John 1:9). The forgiveness we extend should know no bounds, in the same way that God's forgiveness is limitless (Luke 17:3-4).

Recommended Resource: The Freedom and Power of Forgiveness by John MacArthur.

Answer 9

Forgiveness toward your enemy or someone you despise is truly one of the toughest things of life's lessons to go through.
I would suggest you pray on it. I believe in time you will be able to do this not just with these people but in other situations as well. People like that make alot of us sick. Just pray on it and in his timing... you'll get the tools and it'll surprise you how easy he'll make it for you....

Answer 10

Forgiveness need true repentance
Repentance need true confession .
That is the Church low
you are right
but some world low not religion
some money or other can change the decision