Its a complex relationship. We r good friends, ive really liked him for over a year, and he likes me but doesnt want to go out with me. He doesnt like me as much as i like him. He likes me as he would his sisters.
So, after over a year of sleeping over, we finaly get down to it. He started it, but ive wanted 2 for ages so was only happy to oblige. So there we have it, we are going away, but then as we change positions, he cant get it up anymore. He said he didnt know why, as it had never happened wit any other girls before.
Is it guilt with sleeping with a girl he knows is obsessed with him but doesnt have the same feelings for? Was it performance nerves due to the fact he knew i really liked him? Its certainly not medical if it hasnt happened with any other girl?
I am only 19 and he is only 20, and it wasnt either of our first times and have both never came across this happening before.
2007-07-16 03:15:32 · 13 answers · asked by H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh dear. You guys are so immature. If you cant think of anything useful to type, dont bother.
2007-07-16 03:38:10 · update #1
Even if this guy doesn't know it, he may be afraid to lose you as a "sister/friend" if you started having sex... and it freaked him out a little to take things further.. Or maybe he was suddenly worried he would disappoint you and became afraid...
Trust me, I'm a guy - and I can tell you it feels SO great to know a girl wants you... ! (Sometimes that feeling can be even better than the sex involved)
I know exactly how you feel though- I like this girl (more than she likes me) We sometimes flirt but are more like brothers/sisters- I am the one who wishes it were more... for me it will probably never be, and that just hurts so much (especially when she is with someone else!)
When I express my feelings too much though, she backs
off... it is very frustrating - but that is the way it is if I want to have any kind of good relationship with her. And I do love her, no matter what. So I respect her wishes and 'suffer' silently ;-( It's a "price" to pay to have her be a part of my life.. That's just the way it is.
You never know though- if you two were able to take things as far as you did, there still might be a chance... And maybe, if he thinks you don't want him so much anymore.. But be careful with all of this- don't lose something great if you can help it
take care
2007-07-16 03:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by 2bornot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for the pain you've been through. Your life sounds very difficult but please realize you aren't a bad person, you're a sad person. Your bad habits may come from the fact you don't have the love and security everyone needs to be happy. Maybe you do bad things to numb the pain. From your post you obviously don't want to be doing such things you feel guilt and you just want to be loved. That does not sound like a horrible person to me. Never believe that you are ugly and unlovable. Your parents may have told you that you are but they are dead wrong. Community placement may not be such a bad thing. From what you've said your parents do not seem to be giving you the love and attention you deserve. In community placement maybe you'll find people who are more supportive. If you get the chance it might be a good idea to volunteer at an animal shelter. I guarantee there will be more than one furry friend there to show you that you are not unlovable. Volunteering could also give you a sense of accomplishment and purpose not to mention skyrocket your self esteem. I hope this helps!
2016-05-19 01:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he "says" it has never happened before, "whatever". Guys lie. Move on, there are plenty of other guys out there. It must be a sign that you should just be "friends".
2007-07-16 03:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by AskMe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have dutifully obliged with the slob on the knob to achieve the desired result.
2007-07-16 03:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by bongernet 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont think it's goog 4 u guys to have sx by this age
2007-07-16 03:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by New mem 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
19 ha ha
have to read more sex book
2007-07-16 03:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by ROCKFORD FOSGATE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he needs to see a sex therapist
2007-07-16 03:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by jezzika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't blame him really.
I wouldn't be able to get it up for you either.
2007-07-16 03:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
mayme he doesn't like u a lot...just a little bit.
2007-07-16 03:19:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow i really dont know what to say bout that
2007-07-16 03:18:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋