I'm going to Long Beach Island in New Jersey with my dad, his new girlfriend, and her son. I am worried that being in the same room with them will be uncomfortable. Please, give me tips on how to cope??!?!
2007-07-16 02:54:46 · 10 answers · asked by brookee. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
by "same room" i ment hotel room.
also, her son is going into 11th grade.
2007-07-16 03:00:51 · update #1
Being honest and up front with your Dad should help tremendously.
If he doesn't respond to this then if I were you I'd to be open to new ideas on things to do, etc. Help out as much as you can and try to be courteous to your dad's girlfriend and child.
2007-07-16 02:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I took this wrong, are you afraid of being in the same room with your dad's girlfriend of with the son? Perhaps you could have an adjoining room, that way you would have some privacy. Just be straight with your dad, I am sure he will understand. Just don't get upset. Good Luck and have fun on the beach.
2007-07-16 10:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming since you are on Yahoo Answers that you are old enough to have your own room - is this financially feasible (I am assuming you are staying in a hotel)?
You should politely ask this of you dad. If not feasible, be honest with him that the situation makes you uncomfortable.
Call me old fashioned, but I think it is only appropriate that your dad not share a bed with someone not his wife on a trip that includes his kids. If you feel the same - and if this is the issue, I think your dad needs to hear this from you. It may not change his mind, but you will have said your peace and established your values.
2007-07-16 10:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by Matt G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don't go if you think you're going to be uncomfortable. If you have to go, you better support the heck out of the situation so that everybody can grow to love and support each other. Do not screw this one up for your dad and his friend. Can you see how that might be beneficial for everybody? It is much easier to be subjected to something you don't like than to be a prick in everybody's side.
The trick is to not be selfish about the experience. In the end, we are all family anyway. Make the trip something everybody will remember favorably about you, for there is where you can make the greatest impact. You can be a positive example to those around, and people will want to respect you for it, in due time. Just ride it out, and make it the best of experiences for others. In the end, this attitude always, always, always makes life better for you too.
2007-07-16 10:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Atom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down, dont worry that much,if you feel weird, and they are in the hotel tell your dad your going for a walk along the beach or something to get out of the room, bring movies, and if u have one, a portable DVD player, that way you can just go innto a room no one is in and watch movies if its dark. thats my best advice for this situation, hope it works!!
2007-07-16 10:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by Jkkll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a mother, with a new partner, who also has children, can i tell you a secret? she will feel exactly the same as you do, trust me! you will all feel a little uncomfortable at first but you just have to relax, he is still your dad, and wouldnt have arranged this if he wasnt sure you'd be fine, what youre feeling is natural, you'll just have to take it as it comes, i hope it all works out for you
2007-07-16 10:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a chance, maybe you will like her.
I'm sure your Dad want you to ses what a nice person she is so has set up some time away from your normal enviroment so that you can get to know her and her son.
Be yourself, and be respectful. and all will go well.
2007-07-16 09:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by silly_me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the big deal?Chill and have fun.You've never gone on a trip with someone you did'nt know that well?It's a great way to get to know someone.
2007-07-16 10:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be cool and nice as you can. Respect her and try to be friendly. Remember this is for him. Think of it as a gift.
2007-07-16 09:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry, i'm sure everyone will be pretty nervous and uncomfortable at first...just relax and take it easy, it should be fine! have fun
2007-07-16 10:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋