what do you say/do to a person who constantly talks about himself? he talks constantly, and i feel trapped.?

Answer 1

I have done this before:
Say, " I get the feeling that you're just talking at me and not with me, like I'm not even here. You haven't asked me a single question about me and seem to just be talking to hear yourself talk."

Answer 2

If he is so rude as to go on and on about himself so much that you feel trapped then you have no need to be so polite as to stand there and suffer. Stop him when he takes a breath and excuse yourself and then walk away and start a conversation with someone else or go to the bathroom to throw him off the track.

Or you could just jumpin, being as rude as he is and say something like "Yes you told me that before and it reminds me of......... and go on with your own story.
Or simply ask him a question that will change the subject. Ask something out of the blue something that will make him think for a minute something off the wall, like ask him suddenly if he knows how many cups are in a gallon and ask it as if it were life and death. when he stops you can laugh and say the conversation was getting too one sided and you needed to get a word in edgewise. He will either laugh and take the hint and it will be OK or he will get mad and stomp off and then YOU will be OK and rid of this bore.

Answer 3

The worst thing is a person who talks about himself all the time, and what a good and virtuous person he is, relating what a hard worker he is, and how he has earned what he has in life because of his morality and good judgement in things, and how it was his own strength and determination that got him through all the hard times.

My response to such a person would be: "all your good works have been ruined by your pride!"

There is nothing more hateful to God than pride (pride in the haughty, not the proper accomplished sense), as pride will instantly disqualify any good work a person has done - but inner charity and goodness of the heart is most pleasing to God, even when not much is visible to other people.




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Answer 4

It's easier with work colleagues than with social acquaintances, but I usually tell them, "You have X number of minutes before I need to attend to another issue. What's on your mind?" Then I cut them off when time's up, and ask them to send me a follow-up email if they need to communicate further.

For social situations, I hold up my hand, and smile when I say, "Do you mind I say something here?" or "Let's continue this conversation later. I need to check on a friend." If they still ramble on, I end it with, "Okay, then." And I walk away.

Honestly, most time they're not aware they're doing it. It's not always the same person, too. I've noticed that when people are stressed about something, they're distracted enough not to pick up on body language that they would at other times.

Answer 5

We use instant messenger in our office to get our friends to call us on our desk-phone.

Typically, these types of people need you to be very blunt, and yet are emotionally fragile at the same time (or they wouldn't be so wrapped up in themselves they only talk about their life). I would love for a behavioral psychologist to give an answer to this one.

I have someone in our office whose depression and self-centered conversation skills drives me crazy. She never contributes and always seems to drain the life out of a group conversation. She can literally walk up to a group of people talking and within thirty seconds it will have disbanded and everyone walks off.

Answer 6

Tell him that you'll pay him a nickel every time that he begins a sentence that doesn't start with the words "I think..."

Maybe you could start a betting pool with your coworkers to bet on how many times he says, "I think," in a given period of time.

You feel trapped? Well, aren't all we doing is talking about you? *laughter*

Answer 7

I have a tendency to feel sorry for those who talk about themselves. They are either lonely and no one will listen to them or they are in a world of 'I, Me & My."
This is a world for many..who thinks that the world and everything in it stems around their vortex(navel).

I would remember these words that Benjamin Frankilin once said as this person is talking about himself.


"Whatever is begun in anger ends in shame."
Category: Anger Author: Franklin, Benjamin


"Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better man."
Category: Maturity Author: Franklin, Benjamin


"Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing."
Category: Friendship Author: Franklin, Benjamin


"He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals."
Category: Pride Author: Franklin, Benjamin


Just be patient with this person..and start introducing him to others around you so you won't be the only one he has to talk to.

Answer 8

Best thing is to walk away every time he does that.....I have a neighbor like that and I say....oops my phone is ringing...
No need to be trapped by these self indulgent people.

Answer 9

Start a pretend nervous tick, or something of that nature. A fart would be the last option, depending on the settings(jk).....

Answer 10

Change the subject often, if this doesn't work then this person doesn't care about anyone but them selves and are better off alone.