How can i get my mother to stop critising the way i wear my makeup and such?

Question

I'm a person, with very low self esteem as is. And my mother nagging me about me wearing makeup is making this worse. I feel prettier in make up, i do not wear it gothic or anything like that, i wear it very tastefully actually. No one other than my mother and father say anything about it, in fact every one else thinks it's really pretty,. My mom always tells me i look ugly with it and so does my dad. The way i see it, is i don't think i look that pretty without makeup, and when i do put it on, they don't think i look pretty. So no matter what i do now, i don't feel; pretty. How can i make them stop nagging me? it's EVERY single day. And they don't even realize what i t's doing to me, i'm already dealing with self confidenmce regarding my weight, i don't nee dto be self concious about my face too. Help!?!

I just wear like mascara and eyeliner...sometimes foundation, but she can't even tell if i'm wearing i or not, so that's not an issue....she hates the mascara and eyeliner...oh i'm almost 15 too.

I'm not over weight, just not as confident about my body as i could be..

Answer 1

ALMOST 15 IS A VERY DIFFICULT AGE FOR YOU AND ALSO A DIFFICULTY TIME FOR YOUR PARENTS, THEY CAN SEE THAT YOUR GROWING UP VERY QUICKLY FROM A CHILD TO A YOUNG WOMAN I FEEL VERY SAD WHEN I READ YOUR LETTER IM SURE YOU DONT LOOK UGLY YOU DO SEEM TO RUN YOURSELF DOWN A LOT IM SURE YOUR A VERY PRETTY YOUND LADY AND I THINK YOU SHOULD BE ALOUD TO WEAR A LITTLE SOFT MAKEUP NOTHING TO HEAVY,IF YOU WANT TO KEEP IN TOUCH WITH ME ILL BE GLAD TO HEAR FROM YOU AGAIN. IM SURE YOUR PARENTS ARE JUST WORRIED AND CONCERNED FOR YOUR SAFETY WHEN YOU GO OUT WEARING MAKEUP THAT COULD POSSIBLY MAKE YOU LOOK OLDER THAN 15 THERES A LOT OF AWFUL PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT COULD TAKE ADVANTAGE OF A LOVELY YOUNG LADY SUCH AS YOU. PLEASE BE CAREFUL AND TRY TO GIVE YOUR PARENTS A BIT OF CONSIDERATION AFTER ALL SAID AND DONE THEY ARE YOUR PARENTS AND THEY LOVE YOU A LOT.

Answer 2

Be honest with your mom about everything not just the makeup. Ask her what it is she doesn't like about your make up. Mom's and Dad's get a little funny when it comes to daughters. A lot of what they don't like about make up and cloths is that their little girl is growing up. Tell your mom about the confidence issues you're having, how the things she says hurt you and see if the two of you can reach a middle ground. If you don't feel comfortable or are embarrassed talking to her about it write her a letter. Your mom loves you and will do what she can to help you.

Your confidence and self-worth have to come from inside. Confidence is built in the face of criticism. Never, ever let anyone make you feel bad about who you are. Remember that people only have the power to tear us down because we give it to them. We allow what they have to say to be important. I know it's hard, especially when you hear criticism from a parent, I had a lot of self-esteem issues when I was younger too. But you have to like you before you can reasonably expect others to like you.

And as a side note, weight is a number, it is far more important that you eat healthy and get exercise. You sound way, way to young to be obsessing over weight.

Answer 3

I will answer this based on a mother's viewpoint. Most mothers see their daughters as beautiful and being protective, don't want the daughter to bring attention to themselves (boys). Why don't you like the way you look? Does your mom know how you feel about yourself? If not maybe you should sit down with her and try to quietly talk about your feelings. I say quietly because I know mothers and daughters sometimes don't see eye to eye and it ends up in a yelling match with hurt feelings on both sides. Look into a mirror and learn to like the person you see there, no one likes what they see everyday but most can learn to see past the surface and like what is beneath. Good luck

Answer 4

Maybe they want you to see that you don't need makeup to be pretty. You say you are over weight, so what. Alot of big woman are beautiful, it depends on how you see yourself that counts. If you like yourself and do the best you can to be a good person, than weight, or outward beauty doesn't count. If your weight bothers you, then don't complain about it get out there and do something about it, only you can change that about yourself.

Answer 5

Take out a tube of lipstick, put it on your lips and announce that you just love this color, it's very becoming on you and you don't care what others think.

Answer 6

If you like it do it, all guys love make up. My wife can't wear enough for me....