Sometimes maybe the guys I'm dating are not a good match, but sometimes I also wonder if I might be saying the wrong things early in the relationship.
I didn't get a lot of guidance or modeling for good communication when I was younger, so often I just don't know if something is okay to say. I tend to share my feelings pretty openly, so if I'm unsure about someone or something I'll usually say it. I never say things rudely or insensitively, but I guess I am thinking that maybe some things (worries and inner questions) are better left unsaid?
I'm wondering how I can learn more about what I should or should not say early in a relationship? This is SO hard for me to do, as I'm just a very open person when it come to these things. (But I don't want to be so open that I scare others off!)
I really want to find the right person and am willing to look at my own behavior to see if I'm making mistakes.
2007-07-16 01:05:06 · 3 answers · asked by quirkyfunnyone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the whole world finds out that I share my feelings with someone, then they will ALL laugh at me and make fun of me for sure. Besides, my family wouldn't know how to keep a secret if they tried; all they do is tell their ugly, so-called friends that I hate so much, and embarrass me for sure.
2007-07-16 01:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Louise Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many self-behavior books out there that should be able to help you see what you are doing. There are also many books or websites to help guide through the dating process.
It's always best not to bring up past relationship even when asked. It's best not to say you are a nurturer because men aren't looking for a mother. Best not to bring up sex early in the relationship OR be part of it so early in the dating process.
2007-07-16 01:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just lay it all on the line. I don't think that is a bad thing. Maybe you just have not met the person who will accept and recieve your open-ness. If you scare them off by just being 'you' well then hey they are not right for you. A person who cares for you will tell you if your 'open-ness' makes them uncomfortable and you will come to some kind of an understanding together. Hang in there. Continue to be yourself and I hope for you that a person will come along and see your 'open-ness' as a breath of fresh air. :)
2007-07-16 01:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋