A colleague down the corrider and I meet nearly every day for a 10 min coffee break. We talk about everything including make-up, looks, etc and general girlie talk. She said I looked nice today, which I thanked her and then she said my breasts looked big today. I wasn't sure how to react and so I just smiled and said, "Oh, do they?" Should I just accept this as womanly talk or something more serious?
2007-07-15 23:52:50 · 19 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Me and my friends would say stuff like that to each other all the time! It was just a joke, not meant seriously, even if she did mean it, it was most likely just girl talk. If she does it again, tell her it makes you uncomfortable and change the subject.
2007-07-16 03:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥Mum to Superkids Baby on board♥♥ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like a bad attempt in whatever reaction she was trying to get out of you. Weather it be a lesbian tenancy, bad humor or simply a statement out of blabberville, it was still bad taste and people really should find better things to talk about than one another's milk factories. You reacted pretty much how I imagine I would if I were a woman, with unease and surprise of the topic. Just try to forget it for now if there's no obvious reason for her statement and move on. If she continues with such behavior just let her know you don't appreciate it...unless you do of course.
2007-07-16 00:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by David 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do they get larger during your time of the month? Or were you wearing a new push up bra?
If no, I'd probably guess she was hitting on you.
I don't consider hitting on someone to be harrassment - it becomes harrassment when you tell her to stop and she doesn't.
So just sit with her and ask her what she meant and if there was a reason she said it. If she says she likes you, just let her know your opinion on the matter and it should stop. If it doesn't, complain about harrassment to your boss.
2007-07-16 02:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't consider this harrassment. She is being honest with you as you have seemed to develop some kind of friendly relationship with her. She has observed that you may be a potentially good friend so shes just being herself. I would more opt to say that she was being forward and a bit too insensitive but not harrassing. If she keeps talking about it and talks around to others about it then thats harrassment. Dont mistake friendship and ease with harrassment
2007-07-16 02:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by Red 4 Green 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Though it is an odd statement I can't imagine how you would surmise sexual harrassment from such a benign statement. Have we really gone so far down the road on this harrassment stuff that two women can't talk openly? Have you never had a girlfriend?
2007-07-16 01:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you get on well with her, she's probably just paying you a compliment, you'd know otherwise by her body language/facial expression.
I also must say, it's about the most unlikely chat-up line you could hear from a lesbian to be honest.
Just womanly talk, if a bit inappropriate at work. If she continues, tell her thanks but it makes you feel uncomfortable.
2007-07-16 00:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by MFFL 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she makes another remark such as that and it makes you feel uncomfortable tell her so in a nice but firm way. If she continues to make remarks like that again, talk to you HR person and express your concern about it. If that fails then you have a case for harassment.
2007-07-16 02:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by David S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this was the only comment she made... I don't think it's harassment. She's probably comfortable w/ u...enough to make a comment like that... but if she makes another comment w/ sexual innuendos... tell her how it makes u uncomfortable... if she persist (and especially if she starts to touch you w/out permission).... then report her... and start taking ur coffee break somewhere else!
2007-07-16 01:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It was a compliment, even though she may have been getting a little too personal for your comfort.
2007-07-16 04:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be very disconcerted if a woman said that to me. You kinda expect men to say naff things like that but not women. I don't think, at this stage, I'd think of it as harrassment but I'd be wary in the future.
2007-07-15 23:57:32 · answer #10 · answered by Meggan's Mum 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋