I do pretty well at school. Today I got top marks in my Stats assessment. When I told my Mum about my results, she just said ok, good. I got top marks in my geography assignment. I got no recognition from my Mum.
My parents are seperated, my Dad lives in a different country.
I try really hard because this is the last year of high school and I want to go to a good university.
I've tried talking to my Mum about it but all she says it 'I do appreciate you, I always tell you how well you do'
I only work hard for myself now. I've given up hope of my Mum ever being happy for me.
Is this the right thing to do? Should I wait for her to start giving me some credit?
It's so hurtful when she acts like she doesn't care.
2007-07-15 22:09:33 · 4 answers · asked by ★☆✿❀ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that you did the right thing by deciding to please yourself and not your mom. My parents are like that, nothing I do is good enough and its never recognised as success.You dont need anyone elses approval just your own. For what it's worth... I think you did awesome thus far so keep pressing on cos hard work is crowned with success.
2007-07-15 22:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She really is proud of you. Just remember all that hard work really isn't for your parents but for your future; is may seem the other way around earlier in the game, but you'll get.
2007-07-16 05:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by ~Diz Iz Why Im Hot~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not, unusual, to feel unappreciated by those we have relationships with, i.e., not only parents, but spouses, friends, intimate partners, children, teachers and employers. However, it does not mean, we are not appreciated. We may very well be appreciated. Our perception, may be due to nothing more than a communication failure between the parties.
Consider, communicating to your mother; you don't feel appreciated. How, you do this, is very important. You don't want to elicit, a defensive response. I am at a loss, as to how you would do this.
Your question, prompted me to ask the following question: "How does one communicate to their spouse, they feel unappreciated, without eliciting a defensive response?"
2007-07-16 20:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by Larry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is happy for you but your good work is not for her it is for you and your future.
2007-07-16 10:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by Bablueba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋