I have been dating this chick for almost a year, but want to break up without hurting her...what is the best way?
2007-07-15 22:03:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, ment Girls
2007-07-15 22:03:50 · update #1
Rejection is never a nice thing and breaking up is going to hurt her regardless. Its how you do it that matters. Ask her for a heart to heart chat. Where you can gently explain that you care about her and dont want to hurt her. Explain that your feelings have changed and give reasons as to why. Maybe you havent been getting along to well lately, or things have just took there natual way and its fizzled out. Say you still want to remain friends with her if she is willing, and that you are sorry as its not something you wanted to feel, but unfortunately you do. Make sure, if she takes it badly that friends and family are there to support her.. so she can get through it. I wish you both the best of luck hun..
2007-07-15 22:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you become aware of the fact that you are not socially compatible with the female you are seeing, you should thank her for the time you had together but say that you are going to be pursuing some time away from that relationship because you wish to be honest and to avoid deception. You should NOT break up with someone with whom you have been repeatedly, sexually intimate unless that person has cheated on you. Any break-up following sexual intimacy is going to be extremely hurtful to any female (even if she states it is okay). The best way to end a relationship is by establishing a verbal agreement to end it. Avoid just walking away without giving any explanation or statement of intent. That causes a sense of guilt, inadequacy and self-doubt in many females and shows the male who walks away to be immature in his thinking and behavior.
2007-07-15 22:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if uve been dating for a year shes pretty much
already head over heels for u so there no way u can do
it without hurting her
but there is ways u can do it without hurting her as much
first of all never do it over the computer phone nothing
make sure ur in person and u also gotta make sure u tell
her why you are breaking up with her and if its not a good
reason u might wanna just say i don't wanna be in a commited
relationship right now
theres ur advise and i hope everything works out
2007-07-15 22:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by advise-MASTER.2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kindly tell her in a tactfull way that you think it is not working between you two in a successful dating sense, but that she is a great gal & you think the both of you should perhaps give the dating thing a rest. Be respectful & sensitive to her ego. Make her feel that she is not inferior & you are leaving because of any inferior issues regarding her, but that the rapport & chemistry between you two is more suitable as friends & perhaps not so much as a couple. Or tell her you need to perhaps just go on haitus with your dating life with her. She may get unhappy or angry, but its hard to stay angry for long with someone who is being decent & honest. Best of luck in this tricky, commonplace situation.
2007-07-15 22:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by Bronweyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no easy way. Obviously she'll want to know "why". Just keep it short and simple. Like you don't feel like you're enjoying the relationship anymore and don't want to continue it. Whatever you do don't say," well it's not that I don't care about you or that I don't have feelings for you, but...." Otherwise she may think there's hope of getting back with you and she'll just be confused. Do it in person, but in a semi private place like a park or something. somewhere you can leave without looking like you're a jerk. Don't do it n a restaurant.
2007-07-15 22:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry to tell you this, but there is no way that you can dump her without hurting her. Especially if you have been going out for a year.
2007-07-15 22:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy, or best, way. She will be hurt, regardless. This does show that you are a "good" person, in that you are asking a question like this. Good luck, and I wish you the best.
2007-07-15 22:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by fredg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really no good way to keep her from hurting. Just tell her that you think that she is a wonderful person, but you now realize that you are not ready to be settled down right now.
2007-07-15 22:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on why you want to break up, explain it to her.
If it is for reasons dark (new girl etc) whatever you say will sting. Generally honesty works.
2007-07-15 22:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by John S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not you, it's me. haha.
no...you're going to hurt her no matter how you break up with her. just be honest, and as nice as possible.
2007-07-15 22:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by aprylx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋