I have been home all my life, and my mother is very protective of me. She does not let me do anything, and she yells at me a lot. I even told her one day that I know she thinks I'm a pestt and bothers her, and she did not say anything, so I took that as true. I know she loves me, but she is way too controling. I am leaving in January, but have not told her yet. DO you think it will be hard for her? And how do you think I should tell her?
2007-07-15 21:58:32 · 7 answers · asked by miz thang 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you are of age, and want to move on with your life, I am sure that even though your mother will be sad, she will be proud to see you moving into adulthood.
2007-07-15 22:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its always hard for parents when there children leave. Wether they show there feelings or not. I was in a similiar situation. When i left my mom called me 2 weeks later and told me how much she missed me and how she can't believe that i'm actually gone. If your ready to move out and can finacially afford it. Go for it. The sooner you become independent the sooner you can began to heal some of the wounds your mother may have caused. You may even become closer. I moved out 5 years ago and me and my mother are the closest we every have been. We still fight dont get me wrong, but it's nowhere as bad as when i lived with her.
I think you should just find a time when your mom seems the least stressed and sit her down and tell her your plans. Make sure you know where your going, how your going to pay for your bills, etc... and tell her everything you plan on doing. You could even ask her to help you decorate your new place or help you pack and move. This will make her feel included in the process and may calm her nerves.
2007-07-16 05:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by katie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard for her because she's probably grown use to you always being there regardless if you are a pest or not. If you're of age there really isn't much she can do or say anyway. Since you're leaving in January, I would wait to tell her. Tell her with a few weeks of you leaving because she could get pissed and tell you to just get out now. And if you told her now, where would you go?? When you tell her, just tell her. Dont' make it a big deal. Just tell her you're going to be moving come January. See what she says.
2007-07-16 05:14:18 · answer #3 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you????
Tell her a few weeks before you leave. Or you will be a momma´s boy the rest of your life.
She loves you but she can´t keep you with her for the rest of her life. She should be like that over your father (if you still have one).
2007-07-16 13:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by helloy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find the right time and hint to her that you may leave her one day and see what's here reaction. if you are her only child, I would say it would be hard for her. ohterwise, get your other sibilings to spend more time with her. ensure her that even if you move out, you will be back to see her as often as time permits. she will have to let you go one day. she can't control you for life.
2007-07-16 05:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AFTER YOU MOVE IN JANUARY THEN YOUR MOM WILL HAVE TO REALIZE THAT YOU NEED YOUR OWN SPACE. IF SHE BELLOWS AT YOU JUST DONT ANSWER HER BECAUSE HALF OF A CONVERSATION DOESNT GO ANYWHERE. (((( EASY FOR ME TO SAY))))
2007-07-16 05:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by woolly worm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will worry like all moms but will be in your corner when you need
2007-07-16 05:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋