...this is a serious Q. I don't want to cheat on my boyfriend one bit. But I want to experiment with women.
My ultimate fantasy is to be dominated by a man and a woman. I don't want my boyfriend to be one of the guys as we're more equals in bed, and he doesn't dominate me.
I don't wanna cheat on him but I also really don't wanna miss out on this kind of experience.
Is there really no way of getting around it?
2007-07-15 21:51:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would share this fantasy with your boyfriend. You may be able to get to act dominate, if you ask. If you both are secure in the relationship, ask him if he minded if you could arrange this with him watching. You wouldn't be cheating if you both are comfortable exploring this fantasy. If he's not okay with it then, you won't be able to do it while your with him. You can feel him out without telling him directly. Watch a porn together that has a female being sandwiched by a male and another female and asked him what he thinks about threesomes or if he would ever consider it.
2007-07-15 22:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys have a fantasy about being with two girls. So, when you want to hook up with a man and a woman - give me a call.
Seriously though, guys usually don't get bothered too much if their girlfriend experiments with another girl. But, as soon as you put another guy into the situation, and the other guy is not your boyfriend, then he is going to have a problem with it.
Now then, if your BF indicates that it is ok for you to do it with another man and woman, you can just about guarantee that the days left to your relationship are numbered.
I've seen this scenario many times.
And BTW, some fantasies are better off remaining fantasies.
GOOD LUCK with your decision.
2007-07-15 21:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by idplmali 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's still a kid and going to do or say stupid things. i won't scold you about being young and i'm not sure how to teach him the world is cold and miserable out there and he should appreciate what he's got without him living it and losing you which i'm sure you don't want. who or what is he going to listen to, chances are no one. don't let him talk you into it though. as you were his first you can tell him someday maybe but with the kid you want to wait well after when you';re in better shape and if you feel comfortable. for now make sure he doesn't. thinking he has a chance someday might help him not do anything and you don't ever have to deliver. i do worry that you don't want to give him an inch where he thinks it's at all ok.
2016-05-19 00:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, talk about your fantasies with your boyfriend. Be honest about your feelings. Maybe he'll be surprised, but then will come around, and be open to your choices. But, if and when he objects to what you really want to experiment, then he's not opened mind. Even tho, he's concerned for your health, like Aids, Hiv, and other forms of sexual transmitted diseases, so long as you take the safe route. Aka, get to know the person.
2007-07-15 22:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by brianlv93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously not ready to be in this relationship if your interest is not entirely there. Its a toss up between the two really, the experience or the relationship-you choose, but honestly I think you should get over this fantasy and stay with your man.
2007-07-15 21:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump your boyfriend! email me! hahaha.... just kidding! If you badly want it then do it! There are ways to go about and around it! Just be sure that this is what you really want! There are always ramifications in doing this kind of things so be careful and be safe!
2007-07-15 22:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no way around it. If you are not engaged or planning marriage with him, go for it to try one time
2007-07-15 21:56:13 · answer #7 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way to get around it at all so lets get this going i can get it all set
2007-07-15 21:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by rick k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he as good as you hope then sit him down and tell the bloke!
Either way you will know by his response.
2007-07-15 21:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by John S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not married. You want and need more experiences. Go for it.
2007-07-16 02:41:56 · answer #10 · answered by so 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋