Hi. My brother wants to be involved in my wedding but we already have a best man and ushers,so what do i do?

Answer 1

have him do a reading

Answer 2

Is your dad around- can your brother give you away if dad isn't around?

What about groomsmen?

In my wedding I had 1 maid of honor and 3 bridesmaids, my husband had 1 best man and three groomsmen.

I mean, don't him and your future husband get along? I'd hope your brother would be part of the bridal party.

If he wants a job, tell him to also be the one who makes sure everything runs smoothly the day of the wedding, such as making sure everyone has been paid, that there are no fights/problems during the reception, etc.

Answer 3

Could he be in charge of photography? Or making sure everyone signs the guest book? Or showing people to their seats at the reception? Or helping to serve the wedding cake after the two of you have made the ceremonial first slice? Or maybe helping you to make wedding favors? I introduced my (former) best friend to her husband and was not included in any way at their wedding, and that was a slight I never got over, so I think it's important to include him in any way you can, and make him feel like he's vital to the ceremony.

Answer 4

Well let him know that as the wedding party he cant be, but let him make an important toast or maybe a speech at the church...or perhaps if his your only brother and your father is giving you away you can ask him to walk you with your father....in a way it makes him feel an important part of your day

Answer 5

I reckon your brother could MC, but he'd have to be confident in speaking in front of people. He could do a reading or a poem at the church/service. You could make him in charge of music at the church (if you're using CDs). He could be the overseer to ensure that the mums and dads have their corsages and button holes (flowers). What about organising what songs are to be played for the DJ? Maybe he could help make the invitations if you haven't sent them out already. He could also be in charge of ensuring that all the guests have signed the guest book. Maybe he could do some video footage for you. Maybe he could be the driver and drive you around on the day when you're getting your photographs taken etc. He could also be in charge of getting a cold bag / esky full of nibbles and drinks for you whilst your having your photos done. Good luck, he won't mind. Its hard to include everyone in your wedding!!

Answer 6

Let him officiate at the wedding. You don't need a clergyman/clergywoman to make it legal - that's why you have a marriage license.
I was my brother's best man. But, if I'd have thought about it, I would have rather been the person running the show.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

I had my brother escort our grandparents to and from the ceremony. My granparents came from out of state to attend and they didn't know very many people. My grandmother was absolutely beaming about it. Are you going to have programs for the wedding? What about bubbles or rice? If so he could pass them out. He could also help the men get ready with the tuxes if needed. Who will introduce everyone as they enter the reception? Could your brother do the honors? Who is going to help decorate the reception hall, would it be possible for him to assist in it.

Answer 8

He's your brother. Find room for him. He is trying to show support and Love,let him walk you down the aisle, or let him seat the mothers, Something. Even if it's not an important task, let him know how much you need and want his help. He's your brother!

Answer 9

Tell him to say a speech at the reception about some funny things you both got up to as children.

Answer 10

add another usher and bridesmaid. Your brother should have been in the bridal party.

Answer 11

There is always something to do in a wedding. If there isn't a family problem, why wasn't he included in the first place?