I am not sure what to make of this situation see ? below?

Question

My sister after waiting a very long time got married and I had the privlidge of being the matron on honor. I also introduced her to her husband. My sister was one of my very best friends in the whole wide world. We shared a room over 20 years and she was my maid of honor at my wedding also. She has blessed me so much and I do love her.

But since she got married I feel we are not close anymore I moved 3000 miles from home after the wedding and I dont want to call her a lot as she is a newlywed. She has changed a lot and I really dont hear from her as often it is like our realtionship seems over.

I am not bitter or angry and I know this is life but is this normal, but it almost feels like we no longer have the relationship we used to have, this feels strange for me as we have always been there for one another.

My question is is this normal? And is there anything I should be doing? I am not sure what to make of this situation so I thought I would post this question.

Answer 1

Normal. Yes..

But let me tell you from the Word that your BEST FRIEND is none else - JESUS CHRIST the LORD. AMEN

God Love.

John 15:13
Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends

Answer 2

This is often the case when people get married and move away, however, you have had a close relationship for many years, and so you have a great foundation laid there as sisters. I am sure that when she settles down into her new life and environment, she will pick up the some of the closeness as you had before. It might be different now, because she is married, but thank God for the lovely closeness as sisters you have enjoyed, and make every effort to do your part to re-kindle the relationship.

The Lord bless you

Answer 3

yes it very normal. You lessen your calls to her due to her being a newlywed, she may have felt you changed and didn't need her anymore. Being 3000 miles is a distance in it self.
As we grow older and our lives change, its a normal part of life that we change and don't have the same people in our everyday life as before. You are sisters and that will never change, if you were in the same town, you wouldn't feel the lost you feel. I would call and make a pack to have a day of the week to talk. My mom and her sister call each other every Sunday between 4 and 5 pm, they never miss and they make sure they are near the phone on that day during that time. if not able to then they know head of time and make it a different day, time for that week. try something like that. You know in your heart your sister loves you and miss you as much as you do her. don't lose that faith in each other, make your calls happen.

Answer 4

Call her! Newly wed or not what is the big deal with calling? It's important to stay close and in touch but you must make a big effort to do so. Write her and tell her you miss being close to her and sharing all you used to, etc. Keep in touch with emails. Send her cards just because, etc. It could be she really misses you but doesn't know how to tell you or perhaps she deep down is thinking the same things you are but thinks she doesn't want to bother you.

Communication is key in any relationship with relatives, spouses and friends. She can't know how you feel unless you TELL her. Life is short don't wait!

Answer 5

In a way it's quite normal and expect the relationship to redefine itself over a period of time.why not try non direct methods like email,sms o ran occasional letter,a greeting card to keep the relationship on a' HOLD'.Once you both settle down in to your new roles of marriage and home makers,things shall improve. An extremely close living of 20 years needs space and a breather to rework and redefine the parameters of relationship in the years to come.Never Ever expect the past relationship to stay in the good old form.Life works at own it's own terms and we should learn to adjust and make the best of it.Take Heart and be Happy.

Answer 6

It's perfectly normal to feel the way your feeling. In a way you probably feel "replaced". Just try to socialise more to help you along. There's sites like Tribe.net and meetup.com where you can find people to hang out with for free that have the same interest as you. She's your sister she'll always be there for you even though it may not feel like it right now.

Answer 7

i think this is completely normal, when you marry ( i found) you develop a 'new' family that is just yours and some people love to cocoon in that, especially if they are trying for or already have a baby. You relationship will changs and mature but you will always be close, just in a different way, even thiough you say you are not jealous it is normal to be jealous when someone kinda steps in on your friendships

Answer 8

I know exactly how you feel. It's like loosing a part of you.

Same with my sister, but after she started having children... I know within my heart that as time goes by we will become close like were.

Maybe just send her a little letter or something telling her how much you love her and value her friendship! :)

Answer 9

Everything has it's season. I believe when given time she will call you. Let her bask in her knew life for a while. In the meantime don't be hurt, I'm sure she still loves and misses you. A card would be sweet.
Your relationship as you knew it might be over but a new one will blossom.

Answer 10

It's not only normal it's logical. She has a new life with her husband so more of her time is with him. I'm sure you are still just as close and will be closer if you try to establish a friendly relationship with your new brother-in-law.