Yeah, so why in the world does the bride, who has kerjillions of other details she assumes is actually important to worry about, take it upon herself to decide where a bunch of adults sit to eat at the wedding?
Is it just so she can be in control of one more stupid, unimportant detail that dictates what others are supposed to do on her wedding day?
Of all the idiotic wedding things I've ever heard of, this one takes the cake.
2007-07-15 19:05:45 · 12 answers · asked by CrazyChick 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Margaret: Yes. I was fourteen.
More often, though, I've been stuck having to have a conversation with someone who got on my very last nerve. Why would someone want to take a chance and make one of their wedding guests sit through dinner with someone who annoys them every second they are sitting through dinner together?
2007-07-15 19:20:35 · update #1
I thought this way too - at first. Then I realized that I had a handful of people that I would be inviting, that would not be bringing a guest AND may not know ANYONE.
Not being the most outgoing person, i put myself in their shoes. What would I do? How would I feel if I went to a wedding reception and knew no one? I would probably stand around until some kind stranger asked me if I wanted to sit with them. I might even feel left out OR in the spotlight if i were at a table with a group of people who all knew each other.
Then I read an article on theknot.com. Someone had said they HATE walking in to a recption WITHOUT assigned seating when they don't know anyone at the wedding except the brie and/or groom.
Those points changed my mind. So what I will do is pull out the single people or couples who won't know many people first. Then find the other friends or relatives that I think are around the same age and/or have similar interests and seat them with those people. The rest of the relatives should be easy to seat.
It's not about control. It's being considerate of your guests and not letting them feel misplaced.
2007-07-16 05:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did the seating arrangement thing at my wedding... why? Because you cant put people who usually dont get along at one table! Some people actually have family that hate each other and if you exclude inviting one set then the other set doesnt show.. to avoid that drama and making my day a success I placed the people strategically so that all had a great time.
2007-07-16 05:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's a hard one isn't it??? I'm having a cocktail style wedding with finger food. It's less formal, more of a party, more mingling and socialising. There are still chairs and chairs and tables for people to sit at, but I don't have to worry about place cards, and it's a bit cheaper too!
2007-07-16 04:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by Snoopy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seating charts give order when you have 200 people walking into a room with no idea where to sit... it makes life easier for everyone involved..
What exactly was your question?
2007-07-16 11:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Open seating is MUCH better, except for designating some tables reserved for family members.
2007-07-16 09:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nobody says you have to have assigned seating. You can always just have reserved tables for the bridal party and maybe a few relatives. Nobody stays in their seats that long anyway and some people like to sit with their own choices. I hate assigned seating, I always get stuck with at least 1 nincompoop that I would rather not be around.
2007-07-16 02:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by bigDcowgirl 7 · 5⤊ 3⤋
I dont believe in seating charts either , I eould let ppl sit down where ever but alot of ppl does this to avoid conflicts with rival relatives or just to have everything in order
2007-07-16 02:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Wow, you sound pretty ticked off there. Heaven forbid some brides actually try to make it so family members are sitting next to people they know and that co-workers do not feel left out in the cold.
2007-07-16 02:34:44 · answer #8 · answered by Reality 3 · 4⤊ 4⤋
Were you ever in a situation where you walked into a cafeteria and didn't know where to sit or who to sit with? Why would you want anyone to feel like that at a wedding???
2007-07-16 02:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Margaret 4 · 4⤊ 4⤋
I like the idea of informal seating. I wanted people to mingle and not have to worry about finding their seats, or getting stuck with someone they couldn't stand.
2007-07-16 02:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋