Im 18 and going to college in a little more than a month. Ive recently met this girl who really likes me a lot and has for a while. She really would like to date me until the summer is over. She is ok but nothing amazing at all. we are sexually active and we hang out nearly everyday. the only reason we dont date is because i just got out of a relationship a little while ago and i wasnt sure if i wanted to be in another off the get-go. Im starting to feel like we should date now and make a commitment for the summer. im just dreading that she will become more attached and things will get much more complicated than desired. as of now, she is already fairly attached to a degree. opinions? should i date her or no?
2007-07-15 19:04:45 · 17 answers · asked by yahooanswers23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If, as you say, she likes you a lot and seems to want more of a commitment, you should absolutely not date her (although you have probably already created problems by being sexually involved with her and hanging out with her daily). It doesn't sound to me like you are really into her, so what you are doing is using her while you get over your other relationship. That would be okay if she were equally uncommitted, but since she DOES care, she will be hurt when you move on. Any additional "commitments" that you make will hurt her more in the long run. You need to step back as soon as possible.
2007-07-15 19:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by neniaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends do u really want to go out with, or do u just not want 2 hurt her feelings. ur heart should show the way, but if u need help then just tell the gril what u just told me. and tell her about how u feel on just getting off an relationship. most of the times ur heart tells u wat 2 do, but when it's to hard to handle by urself u always need to talk to someone. so talk to the girl and in the end im sure u 2 will have a happy ending
also i know most guys don't understand this whole dating thing, and yes it's complicating but just to let u know us girls r dealing with it to and we also need someone 2 talk 2, and talk to the girl and i'm sure it will end with a happy ending!
2007-07-16 02:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Cierra W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you pretty much answered yourself, sounds like you only want a summer fling anyway and thats exactly what your getting now without the commitment attached.. if shes as keen as you say then she'll hang around with or without the commitment anyway. Then it doesnt have to end messy when summers over! so dont date her coz you dont sound keen anyway, u shoud date someone u think IS amazing!
2007-07-16 02:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said she's nothing amazing. Sounds like you don't want anything more than a summer fling. Tell her you'll date her for the summer, but you won't do long distance. If she agrees, then it's up to her not to get attached.
2007-07-16 02:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by flyzinID 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say don't do it i even say start breaking ties off now.. You 2 might get to attatched and it will be even harder at the end of summer... and if you 2 try the long distance relation thing ask yourself this being at college can you stay faithfull the WHOLE TIME? good luck man
2007-07-16 02:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by billy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should coz you owe her that much. and on the date tell her how you feel about you two. you know the who thing about her getting too attached and then summer ends and you start college. truth is it sounds more like you are the one who is attached to her. women are better at dealing with emotions usually
2007-07-16 02:12:54 · answer #6 · answered by l33nix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be just a summer love but if she's comming out a little too strong try not to see and talk to her as much as you normally do you are basically dating.... kinda i dont think you should date her things can become very complicated only my opinion =)
2007-07-16 02:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn it around. What if you decide that she's really cool and you start to dig her alot? Then your going to be leaving.
I wouldn't get mixed up with anyone this late in the game. It might just lead to heart break for someone. Could be you.
Best Wishes
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2007-07-16 02:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to then dont but that means the sex stops!
If your worried about her being attched having sex wont help that!
Unless your going to move away after the summer just end it all now because you wont get rid of her if your not going to be gone, its also mean to string her along. she is gonna feel so used and feel like crap once your done with her!
2007-07-16 02:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but b4 youh do make sure she gets the consept that youhr not going to be around much longer and ask her if she wants to deal with that or should youh guys be friends
2007-07-16 02:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋